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CLove's picture

Submitted by CLove on Wed, 07/26/2023 - 5:05pm

power sulk needs my help registering for her last year of high school.

I gave her all that last year. When she registered last year.

After her treatment of me, Im no longer helping at all. Im so mad.

After all the disrespect, I get a text from husband that power sulk needs log in credentials and I need to give them to him so he can give them to her.

eff them. I told him I would help if I got respect and apologies, however I dont need fake apologies.

He said he is ready to get the paperwork ready to "get rid of things", meaning the marriage.

And hes going on a trip south for 4 days alone, I cant go I cant afford it. Will the locks fit?

Im so mad right now, but feel vindicated that I grew a  spine and didnt just roll over and reliquish my boundaries.

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CLove's picture

Submitted by CLove on Wed, 07/26/2023 - 5:37pm

I told him I deleted the info...

thinkthrice's picture

Submitted by thinkthrice on Wed, 07/26/2023 - 5:16pm

Whoops they got erased.   PS and HER dad will need to contact the school.

CLove's picture

Submitted by CLove on Wed, 07/26/2023 - 5:38pm

or something. yep its all on them now Im out of if.

CLove's picture

Submitted by CLove on Wed, 07/26/2023 - 5:57pm

I took advice and extricated myself from anything to do with powersulks school. He needs to get there and set it up and she can have the log ins and if she wants take his phone number out of all the school notifications, thats between them.

She has shown who she is through past actions. She will always come back and up the ante of whatever it is that she is countering. She sent her sister to ER for sprained thumb, sikked her toxic troll mother on me, put a camera in my face and made false accusations, then threatened cps.

SO. I am far far out of it.

 

Winterglow's picture

Submitted by Winterglow on Thu, 07/27/2023 - 9:52am

Have you blocked all information coming from the school? It sounds as if you have.

Your husband is a turd for going on a trip solo because you can't afford it right now. He was happy enough to benefit from your finances when he was broke due to CS etc. and for all the stuff you paid for for his brats. Pretty pathetic that he has selective amnesia...

All take and no give. You're worth so much better than this CLove.

Exjuliemccoy's picture

Submitted by Exjuliemccoy on Thu, 07/27/2023 - 3:08pm

I love the idea of CLove's H having to sell his beloved boats and cars to settle the divorce. It makes me smile, thinking about how dumb he is.

CLove, use these four days to get all necessary paperwork in order. Show him you don't put up with idle threats.

ndc's picture

Submitted by ndc on Wed, 07/26/2023 - 5:22pm

I'm sure you flushed that information from your mind when your assistance was spat upon last time.  Eff them is right.

CLove's picture

Submitted by CLove on Wed, 07/26/2023 - 5:39pm

in actuality I changed the password to respect123 and am halfway to sending it to her...

Lillywy00's picture

Submitted by Lillywy00 on Thu, 07/27/2023 - 12:10pm

He said he is ready to get the paperwork ready to "get rid of things", meaning the marriage.

PW = SeeYouInCourtBitch!$$$$$

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Submitted by notarelative on Wed, 07/26/2023 - 5:35pm

You gave her the codes last year and she registered.  If she doesn't have them now, either DH or Toxic can get them from the school. You don't have them.

DH's previous lack of interest is coming back to haunt him. He has no idea what the codes are or how to get them. He's defaulting to 'ask Clove' and hoping you will cave and do the work for him.

 

CLove's picture

Submitted by CLove on Wed, 07/26/2023 - 5:36pm

And Im just "ok". Im not getting into lecture mode with powerpoint slides...that time has passed.

Merry's picture

Submitted by Merry on Wed, 07/26/2023 - 5:37pm

Oh, the one who threatens you with allegations of abuse with a phone in your face  now needs your help. Oh golly, what to do, what to do.

CLove's picture

Submitted by CLove on Wed, 07/26/2023 - 5:40pm

respect123

callcpsnow123

thinkthrice's picture

Submitted by thinkthrice on Wed, 07/26/2023 - 8:27pm

Parttimeshittydad101  Rottenhusband812

thinkthrice's picture

Submitted by thinkthrice on Thu, 07/27/2023 - 5:36am

Heresyourdivorce2023

Notyourbratty666kidsslave

Lillywy00's picture

Submitted by Lillywy00 on Thu, 07/27/2023 - 12:16pm

PW = TakingYouToTheCleaners

PW = TopDivorceLawyersInTown

PW = GoodRiddens304

PW = LeaveYourAssNLeaveWithHalf

*which password was he looking for? lol!

CajunMom's picture

Submitted by CajunMom on Wed, 07/26/2023 - 5:40pm

get thee to an attorney. Once that word (divorce) is thrown out there, things can get messy and get messy fast. He wants to throw that out...act on it. In fact, skip the part about waiting. Do it tomorrow. And get everything you deserve.

CajunMom's picture

Submitted by CajunMom on Wed, 07/26/2023 - 5:44pm

He says a lot of empty words, I'm assuming. Make him eat those. Ink wouldn't be dry when I had him served, if it was me.

CLove's picture

Submitted by CLove on Wed, 07/26/2023 - 6:23pm

His threats are empty because everything is going great for him right now.

Winterglow's picture

Submitted by Winterglow on Thu, 07/27/2023 - 11:14am

So next time, scare the shit out of him. Go rummage in your handbag, tell him you're looking for a pen and that he should bring the papers immediately so you can sign them. Bet he backpedals...

CajunMom's picture

Submitted by CajunMom on Wed, 07/26/2023 - 5:43pm

I have certifications in temperament therapy. DHs oldest knows this, knows she and I did this with she conned me into counseling with her years ago (before I was certified) yet somehow thinks I have her report. She asked DH to ask me for it. (found out through the grapevine. He never has.  He f-ing knows better. Besides the fact I don't have it...those tests were done under another agent...I wouldn't give it to her if I did. DH knows it. 

CLove's picture

Submitted by CLove on Wed, 07/26/2023 - 5:46pm

powersulk can have daddy cakes get her login registration and all that. 

1st3rd5thWEInHell's picture

Submitted by 1st3rd5thWEInHell on Wed, 07/26/2023 - 7:56pm

Give them the freakin log in credentials and let them choke on it!

Tell him to get the paperwork ready as soon as possible and you will be waiting. My husband has threatened paperwork a thousand times and I told him to prepare it immediately and let me know where to sign on the dotted line! Days later crickets. Its just to make you feel some type of way and stress you out

 

4 days of happiness and vacation for you!!

thinkthrice's picture

Submitted by thinkthrice on Wed, 07/26/2023 - 8:30pm

Thing as though being married to these guys is a real treat and privilege.

Wacko

Lillywy00's picture

Submitted by Lillywy00 on Thu, 07/27/2023 - 12:25pm

I have come to the conclusion that the bar is set extremely low for majority of these men.

They can't cook, cant clean after themselves, can't f*ck, barely providing, can't single parent their own kids they chose to bring in this world, house be in shambles letting them lead.......

They literally only marry women so they can have free houseslaves who they have s3x with when they want. 

IMO - There is no privilege to a woman if she marries the average man in today's society. Once I realized all this free labor this dude expected me to gleefully do ontop of s3xing him up on demand......I changed my mind about marriage

SteppedOut's picture

Submitted by SteppedOut on Thu, 07/27/2023 - 1:22pm

Seriously when I left step-life 5 years ago, I realized I was always happier, less stressed and financially better off when single. Five years later - still single, happier, less stressed and BY FAR more financially secure. 

I will remain single - and love it. 

1st3rd5thWEInHell's picture

Submitted by 1st3rd5thWEInHell on Thu, 07/27/2023 - 1:31pm

Marriage is free labor for some men and women. Too bad....Some ppl are still marrying for the right reasons though but not single parents

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Submitted by 1st3rd5thWEInHell on Thu, 07/27/2023 - 1:30pm

Yep control! In his mind if he threatens you with that, you will be scared and straighten up to do what he and his little bitch want!

Trust me, i told my husband many times to bring the paperwork immediately and show me where to sign. I even printed the paperwork once and gave it to him to fill and sign and he tore it up after he had threatened. My divorce would go very quickly because i have nothing joint except the dog!! When the divorce word is pronounced, i ask immediately lets go and show me where to sign. Strangely, he quickly shuffles and changes his mind. Mind games!

Dont falter in your position, give him the opportunity to serve you with paperwork and you act like you are shocked but in the meantime you plan your exit strategy. Its not who has the first laugh but who has the last one and it will be you lol

MissK03's picture

Submitted by MissK03 on Wed, 07/26/2023 - 8:35pm

Clove I'm really sorry things have gotten to this point for you..

With that being said..

Leave him. He can take his loser kids with him. You can NOT break this generational abuser circle. The FF and SD were trained by both of their parents. I'm sure TTs and Hs were trained by theirs etc...

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Submitted by Felicity0224 on Wed, 07/26/2023 - 9:20pm

Wait. He threatened divorce because you enforced a boundary? A boundary that you'd given him ample warning and opportunity to prepare for? Hell no. What a...childish asshole is too nice of a description, honestly. I hope you'll beat him to the punch with paperwork. You would be so much better off without him and his ungrateful kids.

advice.only2's picture

Submitted by advice.only2 on Thu, 07/27/2023 - 9:18am

So you stopped over functioning for him and being the parent to his children and now he wants a divorce!  He’s really showing you who he is, believe him this time.

Harry's picture

Submitted by Harry on Thu, 07/27/2023 - 8:22am

DH is on power sulk side.  Not his wife, he has no respect for you.  He's playing Disney Daddddy .  power sulk Really didn't want to call CPS three times.  power sulk Doesn't really mean to disrespect you. All the time.,

You can see what's happening.... you know where you stan.  His source of income...you must realize that your money is going to SD.  He's is saving Money because yoir are paying for the house,,food,,electricity,, And his money is going to SD.   Go to court and start an evection of SO.   Nothing says I LOVE YOU, Better then get the fuc* out of my house.

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Submitted by AlmostGone834 on Thu, 07/27/2023 - 9:26am

It's heartbreaking how we stepparents can be treated. Powersulk B*tchface and Dingledick Daddy can go to hell. I say it over and over, stepmotherhood should come with a warning ... or be illegal altogether for good of society. At least with these two gone, your life will be much more peaceful. Heck I would have divorced him the moment he allowed PSBF to eat off my plate in a restaurant (yes that still bothers me). 

CLove's picture

Submitted by CLove on Thu, 07/27/2023 - 11:39am

Yes powersulk is also feral Ive come to understand.

I am seeing things very clearly - I think divorced and separated people with kids actively look for partners so that they can have another paycheck/a chauffer/maid/chef.

They dont understand the value of a partner until the divorce/separation.

Winterglow's picture

Submitted by Winterglow on Thu, 07/27/2023 - 9:42am

Time to remind him that on Monday night he told you to back off and keep out of things. So that's what you have done. You no longer have this information required and finding it is as simple for him as it is for you ( rub this point in well) besides, you were told to keep out of things and that is precisely what you are doing. You are giving him exactly what he wanted.

CLove's picture

Submitted by CLove on Thu, 07/27/2023 - 10:50am

where powersulk got her powersulking skills.

because husband has been powersulking all night last night. I ignore ignore ignore.

justmakingthebest's picture

Submitted by justmakingthebest on Thu, 07/27/2023 - 10:57am

That's all you can do until you decide to boot his butt right out the front door.

ESMOD's picture

Submitted by ESMOD on Thu, 07/27/2023 - 12:12pm

Re the passwords.. tbh.. these are the kind of things that I will more than likely think.. what causes ME more pain.  Giving the password?  Making a line in the sand that will cause drama and powersulking from hubby and skid?   the latter is more of a pita.. so I just give the password.. and done.. the issue is behind me.. I would not log on and DO it for them.. I would provide the credentials.. (if you can find prior emails of sending him the credentials.. all the better to just forward THAT)

as for his threats of divorce.. you have to practice this one in the mirror..

"Ohh.. quit making promises you won't keep"

"Really?  thank God.. I'm about done with this Scheiss too"

Or some other smart alec reply that lets him know that he just might as well go ahead if that's how he really feels.. you won't lose sleep and shoot.. maybe he better do it sooner rather than later because you are about at THAT point yoursell!

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Submitted by Aniki-Moderator on Thu, 07/27/2023 - 12:21pm

I'd rather file first. His repeated threat of divorce is a crappy tactic used to get CLove to fall back in line. 

CLove's picture

Submitted by CLove on Thu, 07/27/2023 - 12:52pm

In the decision tree of what causes more pain - I am doing the work to go through this boundary setting and reinforcing. Its going to cause more pain in the short run, because Ive not been strong in the past. This lesson teaching (for me) is worth the increase of short term pain. What my goals are - you know well - is for me to stop my overfunctioning, to distance myself, and to show that disrespecting me in all the various ways I have been disrespected are not to be tolerated.

If I do this thing "one more time" to save power sulk and husband, what message am I sending? He already is telling me Im weak, and already is being mean, sd has already learned to disrespect me and no repercussions - so what message am I sending if I cave "just this once"?

I really am (sort of) on the fence on this one...but not really, although I appreciate your input on this.

Lillywy00's picture

Submitted by Lillywy00 on Thu, 07/27/2023 - 12:30pm

I'd put the divorce lawyer on the hold then ask your husband flat out --> What do you mean by "get rid of things"??? 

If he says the marriage then bring the lawyer back to the line and say "it's go time!"

Like everyone said FILE FIRST - this is not the time to be sweet, nice, or consider his feelings bc he wont consider your feelings when he's off somewhere legally trying to 'get rid of things' and blindside you with divorce papers

Stepdrama2020's picture

Submitted by Stepdrama2020 on Thu, 07/27/2023 - 1:26pm

Hugs and we should throw a virtual party when you rid yourself of them

password  toxic123 or  dumbass456