Our first anniversary, we decided to "plan something fun" and get out of dodge (town) for the weekend. Of course Toxic Troll had to cause a blip or it wouldnt be interesting right?

It started off great - Toxic Troll arrived late Friday evening from her out of town excursion to that mysterious place in Southern CAlifornia we know not where but suspect is in fact Disneyland.

Shes like the frickn "Bloody Finger"  - "Im 10 miles away, Im turning on A street, now turning on N street, now out front: Im like, "hello Bloody finger, no bandaid for you!!!"

We do our obligatory things saturday (shower bday, etc), then head to a fun event we had just purchased deep discounted tickets to. Stayed the night with his sister, 10 minutes away, get up have a nice breakfast just us four, nice conversation...

Then drove to the ocean and enjoyed an awesome day just walking around, sipping adult beverages, checking things out, lazing around. Drove home, super tired and just as we were enjoying our naptime, DH gets a phone call.

"moms not home and Im worried because I havent heard from her today".

Toxic Troll left munchkin SD13 home alone from 10:30 am to about 9:30 pm, with no phone call checkins and no returned phone calls or texts!

Now, I know that sometimes I overdo the helicopter stepmom thing - I rarely if ever leave Munchkin alone for more than 3-4 hours and often just invite her along with me, and if we do leave her home alone or at her gmas house, she has plenty of food, or we buy her stuff, and we check in via text every few hours and I always text to say "we are on our way, munchkin, how goes it?"

So, Im pretty upset. DH, went to go get Munchkin, and found out she didnt even have a key to lock the darn apartment, then as they were leaving anyway, Toxic Troll walks up with "a red angry face", and yells at Munchkin for leaving "I bought you this food and ice cream!" So something went wrong in the communications somewhere. Im of the opinion you dont leave a 13 yo without food, and without communication alone in an apartment all day and most of the evening. Supposedly she has a side gig but it was only from 12 noon till 3 pm.

But you know what really stinks is that momeee will be forgiven, everything swept under the rug, like nothing, she will be mother of the year because she recently purchased a new violin (around $300 ish), so for now she is golden.

The story we got, however, was inconsistent and incomplete. And Toxic Troll had no explanations for why she left for the whole morning/afternoon/evening.

We will get the story later this evening I suppose. Im just resenting that I apparently am a better parent, and feel that it is expected by now (five years in) - its just what I do. And that if anyone senses that Toxic Troll is "gettting mad" they shake in their shoes! Shes mad, and they crumble, instead of standing up to her. Why didnt DH ask her her what the he!!. Oh because she looked mad and he would get the story later and discuss a key....later.

So fed up with bowing down to the almighty BM.

All because she gave birth, and we must not make her mad.

Just because I do not have bio children, I must bow down to almighty GU! She gave the world children!

Last night Dh and I talked because we couldnt get back to sleep, and he was lamenting the fact she is a sucky mother to her kids. I said "well thats who you decided to breed with, so thats your repercussions!" He just laughed and told me he never thought he would ever be a father because Drs. told him she could not have children, then oops! He missed my point completely. Or gaslighted me, I dont know. He doesnt get the fact that she is not only a sucky mother, she was a sucky partner, an abusive partner. Hes buried his head so far in the sand. I guess he cannot reconcile the fact that his picker was broken. Then I got to hear about how "lucky he was", that she HAD given birth. That some of his friends tried and after failing just got dogs.

Nice end to our first anniversary babe! Toxic Troll and her poison pill of GU motherhood slapped in my face.