my younger stepson called me a bitch!!!
I cant believe the punk. I was very hurt and told my husband to discipline him. And when my husband goes off on him the kid does not even react. He did not even care. Then my older stepson heard about it and starts scolding his brother and this makes the kid cry! Older stepson then makes his brother apologise to me. We have a big problem. My 11 year old stepson sees his older brother as more of an authority figure than my husband. How are we going to handle this when the older one leaves in two years?
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Wow....I'm sorry the kid said
Wow....I'm sorry the kid said that to you.
Could it be more of a case of idolizing his older brother?
When I was a kid I worshiped the ground my big sister walked on, so if "Mom" told me to do something I'd be snarky. But I was all over it if my big sister suggested it. It wasn't so much she had more authority, it was more that I wanted to be like her.
It's good that your older SS stepped in and defended you too. It may have reinforced what your DH said to younger SS.
We recently got custody of
We recently got custody of the kids. For the past 5 years, they were PAS'd by the mother. The older stepson raised his brother because the mother was a piece of crap. He did the cooking, cleaning, helping his brother's grades improve. Now, both boys dont look at us like parents. The older one just ignores us and the younger one will do stuff only if his brother tells him to. Its frigging horrible. At least the older kid is well-behaved.
I agree that maybe he needs a
I agree that maybe he needs a spanking or some soap in his mouth.-! Do not let this pass with a half-*ss 'talking to' from DH. Don't do ANYTHING for this child until he give YOU a SINCERE APOLOGY and promises not to talk to you this way again.
It is normal for younger
It is normal for younger siblings to listen to older siblings instead of their parents. My sisters are 10 and 11.5 years younger then myself and they both listened to me way better then they did my parents....they are 22 and 20 and they STILL listen to me better. lol They want my approval. They look up to me, they want to be just like me. I have SD14 and SD5 and I assure you anything I want SD5 to do is annoying...while anything SD14 suggests is magnificent...a great idea! She definitely seems me as mom...she is just more interested in impressing and pleasing her big sis! Be very greatful that big brother is a positive role model and not a negative.
I think it's normal for kids
I think it's normal for kids to be inclined to respect an older sibling more so than a parent. I think it's because the older sibling is seen as more of a peer, and more understanding of "what it's like to be a kid."
Where the parent is just the big ole meanie, who is always riding their butt and doesn't know what it's like to be a kid since they haven't been one for like 1000 years.