My husband and I were having a difficult marriage in 2007. I ended up having an affair. we reconciled and remarried in 2010. his son got really angry told me to leave. He then would not let my husband and I see his children, my husband's biological grandchildren for 2 years. angry words were exchanged. Now, all the sudden, he wants to forget all that was said, forget the past and not talk about it, and start seeing my husband with his children at resturants. he and his wife live right next door, live in filth inside and outside, his yard looks like a junk yard, his wife will not cook will not let anyone visit including her own parents, wears nothing but black, and has some sort of anxiety problem. They were happy before my husband and I remarried because he will not set boundaries, they were coming over any time they wanted, using my husband as a babysitter, and spending his money. the main reason i think they both were angry when we remarried was because they know I will not be taken advantage of. and they are right.

my husbands son really contributed to our martial problems along with my husband's mother. She is a cruel woman who told me I was not good enough for my husband. he is a retired school teacher and I am a RN. when we married I was making more money than him, go figure this one. Then I found out that she had control of the property rights to the front of our property, and prevented me from building my dream barn for my horses, which caused further problems, but when it was time for hubby to give stepson 5 acres for his home, she waddled to the bank and signed the papers. all i ever did was spend year after year trying to improve our home and land, having to clean up junk, stepsons junk, his dead wifes belongings, I hurt my arm moving old machinery that he should of had his stepson to move. the beauty of the situation is someone stole the stepson's belongings i moved, and his hateful mother has to see how her grandchild has ruined his property, and now she is laid up in a nursing home in pain wishing she could go home. I don't wish anyone harm, but sometimes I think people deserve what they get.

how to people deal with these dysfunctional stepchildren? I have so much anger towards the immature punk. and I can truly say I don't like him as a person even if I didn't know him I would not like him. and hearing my husband talk about these people drive me crazy. I can't say anything good about them.