Am I selfish?
We were at dinner last night with SD and friends of ours when I hear her telling DH that SHE has decided to be here for Thanksgiving and will just be staying all week. Without any thought he just answers OK! Thanksgiving is BM holiday this year and our regular schedule dictates that we have SD Monday ,Tuesday and every other Friday, Saturday Sunday. NOT WEDNESDAY. I am extremely pissed off that SD is allowed to dictate this schedule change (she is 14) and even more infuriated that DH approved it without even considering me. He is usually quite good at running stuff by me first, apparently he forgot I was there last night. I was looking forward to my Wednesday preparing my house for Thanksgiving and enjoying the time off work. Now I have to endure doing this whilst having my every move “observed” by SD (she is a creeper) whilst DH is at work. I just want to smack him upside the head and yell ”That was my Wednesday you stupid a$# hole “
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i disagree with calling bm
i disagree with calling bm first, sorry fox.
i think you should try your best to "calmly" ask dh if what you heard was correct? gives him a minute to realize without you going ape shot on him from the get-go. and then tell him how uncomfortable his next conversation with sd is going to be (which will be ASAP), but he is going to have to explain to her that HE forgot that you already have plans and that this year she will be spending tday with her mom, but she is still on monday & tuesday. if he's anyhting like my dh, it's going to be ugly, just tell hom you're sorry (not really, you have nothing to be sorry about), but you have tons of things to do and he will be at work on wed. anyway, so he's just going othave to go by the CO. and on a side note dh, please run visitation changes by me in the future before you accept, it really does impact me, too.
hope it can go that easy for you..... i am still waiting to see if dh fucks me over with having ss here for tday (thank god, sd is somewhere else). unfortunately, i won't know until tday morning ~ when dh decides to take the little pita liar home or not.
Well first of all there isn't
Well first of all there isn't any communication let alone kindness between BM and myself.Her choice,I have extended the olive branch many times and she has chosen to pretend I don't exist. DH apologized and has been way too nice to me since that night and I,like any good wife would do,have taken full advantage of him
I am not asking him how he will deal with this and whether or not SD will still be here all week. Not my kid,not my problem. As for her "observing" me I have decided that I will bring out the "big balls" and start calling her on it when I see her watching. That will start a flood of nasty emails to DH from BM but I truly don't care anymore.
Me - I would have a list of
Me - I would have a list of chores for her. My boys will have a list that day, I assure you. If you are here, you are helping...