So SD8 is a little liar...no other way to go about it. She lies about everything, if her mouth is moving, she's lying!
She has been grounded for it, first an afternoon, then a day, then 3 days, then a week. Didn't work. So she had her whole bedroom stripped, nothing but her bed and clothes left. I made her write lines till her hand hurt, I will not lie! Then I tore up the pages infront of her. This worked for me when I was a kid and got caught stealing from a store. I even tried a lie jar, $10 a lie. I made $50! Nothing is getting through to this kid.

We had one whole week, I thought everything was getting better. She seemed to be catching on. She also has problems with listening, being rude and snotty especially to my kids. They still love her and want to play with her which amazes me. She does everything she can do to get them in trouble. I have had my oldest cover for her when she hurt him but who's the first one running up and tattling when my kids look at her funny??! She is also the brain deadest kid I have ever met. My kids forget stuff, do silly things. But her, it's on a daily basis. She either says something totally stupid or asks the stupidest questions! I have told her multiple times which side of her dresser is school clothes and which side is weekend clothes and almost every day she comes up dressed in the wrong clothes! I get so frustrated with this kid!

Anyways, back to last week. I go to pick up her and my oldest boy from their daycamp and one of the girls pulls me aside and tells me that SD has been throwing out her sandwich everyday. They've been trying all week to figure out who's been doing this and they finally caught her. I had to hold my tongue to stop from snapping at her right there. Not only was she deceiving me and getting me to think she had eaten her sandwich but now she was wasting food. And she KNOWS how I feel about that. The kids know that wasting food is a big no no. There are too many kids going without and they are lucky then get a lunch everyday. So we had a big blow up about that. Her dad was beyond pissed. He has really stepped up lately and has started to plug in so that has gotten way easier. She sees now that it's us against her not her and him against me!

So we ground her, she's cut off, she's writing lines, the whole nine yards. Then two nights ago she tells my boyfriend that she wonders why she's even here. If she's such a bad person and she can't stop lying, then why is she even alive? Well, this does make me feel bad for sure. She annoys the shit out of me but I don't want her to feel bad about herself. So we talk it out. Maybe we are doing everything wrong...maybe she needs a fresh start. She can't gain our trust back since we never believe anything she says and she keeps lying cause maybe we labelled her that way and now she believes it? I don't know...part of me feels like we are rewarding her for doing nothing but another part of me is willing to try anything to get her to stop! We tell her, we're wiping the slate clean, you know have everything back, you have our trust, now keep it!

So today I pick her up. I ask right away if she ate her sandwich or if she threw it out. She tells me she ate it and I say okay I believe you. Then she says but I threw away the meat because I don't like it. Aaaarrggg!! It was everything in me not to snap, I had to literally bite my tongue! So I swallow it down. Ok, thank you for telling me the truth but when we say we don't want you to waste food, we mean all of it. Instead of throwing away things I've been sending in your lunch for how long, just tell me you don't like it. She says ok. I told my boyfriend, he congratulates me for holding it together...lol. We had a talk with her together and I think it went well. I guess she at least admitted it and was more willing to because we said as long as she told the truth, anger would be off the table. Maybe this will work....