DH likes to guilt me into things. Taking SD(7) by myself, taking her extra days, asking me to parent her, mold her and have "girls days" with her. Thing is I can't do it anymore. I don't get along with her, have I tried. She is whiny and full of attitude, why would I want to do things with her when I have my own kids to hang out around that I actually enjoy? Why can't her BM do girls days with her, I would not be cool with another woman doing that with my daughter!

So today I put my foot down. I told him that I didn't want her after school anymore. BM doesn't work and can easily pick up SD from school and keep her untill 6 when DH gets off of work. Then he can pick her up and bring her here and he can parent her. His first response was "are you fucking kidding me?" I calmly told him no, I wasn't. Then it was all how would you like it if I pushed your kids away, think how this is effecting me...yeah, I understand and I have that's why this has gone on for 3 fricking years!! I need this for me, I have to be selfish now for me and my kids. I spend my day pissed at her because she's so rude and disrespectful, I take it out on my kids and they pick up things that she does! I also told him that it is different since I would never expect him to parent my kids by himself if he was having issues with discipline and attitude. The worst my oldest BS does is rolls his eyes once in awhile! Plus my ex isn't in the picture causing problems all the time and he doesn't put down my DH or question his parenting. So totally different situation and he doesn't seem to understand that.

Anyways, he said he would set it up to start happening next week. I told him to parent with the mother of his child, discuss things with her, discuss discipline and rules and stick to them. I am out...I have my kids that I'm worried about and invested in how they turn out. Looking at BM, I can see exactly what path SD is going to take.