Sorry if I am being like crazy annoying with my posts, but I just want to get it all out so I can start to blog in real time lol

When fred and I split, I decided to be the one to get a new place. At the time we were pretty much in full on war mode with eachother and I pictured him just showing up and being all out of control if I stayed and that did not sound fun to me.
I wanted to keep the boys in the district we lived in and it seemed like a good idea to keep our houses close enough so that they would be at the school they would originally have been going to had we stayed together. So our homes are not like across the street but they also arent really far from eachother.
I had already put fred on child support so the only things we really needed to work out was visitation etc. for us, we never really had the need for a court order and just worked that out ourselves.
One thing we decided on was that when we got serious with someone else, we would inform the other when we were planning on introducing them to the kids. Not because we have a sick need to control eschothers lives, but just out of respect. Ya know, kinda give eachother a heads up so we aren't caught off guard when the kids bring it up. I trust his judgement and know he wouldn't put the kids in danger and he feels the same about me, so it was never a ” I need to meet and approve of him/her first!” Type of thing.

So fred calls me one day and says he has been seeing someone and he thinks he is ready for the kids to meet her. He says he thinks that they will start of slow at first and maybe go somewhere fun like the zoo or something this weekend (it was his weekend) she has two boys too so the kids can meet too and see how they hit it off. He asks me if I think it's a good idea, I tell him I do think thats a good plan (I did actually think it was a good idea for a first meeting because it didn't seem too intense and our boys had never seen either of us with anyone else. They pretty much like anyone anyway and are really outgoing so I didn't worry too much). Not really my business how he goes about this whole introduction thing but I did appreciate the sentiment either way.

I keep my mouth shut and do not mention any of this to the boys because I figured it was his thing and he can prep them as he sees fit if that is what he chooses to do. And what would I say to them anyway lol? The weekend rolls around and off go thing1 and thing2 to their dads. Of course, I spend my time sort of nervous and curious about how it was going but I force myself to give them their space and mind my business. On saturday night, they call me to say goodnight and because they wanted to tell me how much fun they had that day. They went to the zoo with dad and made new friends (her kids) I am genuinely happy like honestly happy and relieved. I ask fred how it went, he says better than he could have hoped for. So all in all a good day and everyone is happy.

The next day (sunday) I go to his house to pick up the kids. Ethel is there so fred introduces us. It was a quick meeting, but she seemed nice enough. A little shy, but I am very outgoing almost to an extreme so everyone seems a little shy to me anyway. But she seems really sweet, and the kids were playing together nicely and having lots of fun. I say goodbye and leave thinking everything was just wonderful. I could not have been more wrong.
Part 3 up next