Well so bf and I had a wonderful weekend camping-granted everything we do together, especially when it's just us is great but we didn't know how it woudl go-exceeded our expectations!
Was SO relaxing, fun, glorious couple of days.

From cracking eachother up setting up our big tent to packing/unpacking all our stuff, to just enjoying nature, laughing...I think this nature thing kicks up the 'man nature' in him-he's always so good at doign things fro me anyway but camping? Oh wow...he was busy making a fire, cooking breakfast, making my coffee, grilling dinner, cutting stuff up lol-he was totally in his element I think...and I felt like a pampered princess while CAMPING lol We enjoyed our alone time SO Much but still spent a lot of time saying how we definately will be bringing all 3 kids to do this-brave yes-but I think they'll have so much fun in nature they'll be to beat to misbehave too much -I HOPE!

Anyways-we get back, unpack, enjoy eachother, the ex arrives w/the kids in a good mood. We're talking and I notice a silver ring on his finger...so I asked him, what's the ring?

He chuckles and says-yeah well I'm engaged-I said huh? really? wow, congratulations!! To whom? Lol

He goes on to say (as my bf comes in from outside)-that he started talkign w/this girl from his country a few weeks ago-he knew her in HS but they re-connected, the woman is a friend of his sister-so they literally JUST started talking over the phone...haven't BEEN with eachother yet-but I guess new crush infatutation (and they're advanced age haste makes waste lol) made them say heck with it, let me get someone now before it's too late lol.

I mean-my parents got engaged long distance-and only met 3 weeks before the wedding-they wrote letters and 'courted' for a couple years before this though.

Both bf and I congratulate him earnestly-I'm glad he seems so happy...but really 2 weeks? Bf even commented 'that's odd-so they haven't met or dated in person but they are engaged? - SO she hasn't met kids either. The ex said he would be going there to visit w/her soon.

NOW the glaring elephant is what happens next? Bf and I were discussing the options that could happen....

1) They could meet in person and realize how crazy this is
2) Say it works out-good for everyone (I don't think she has any kids)
3) They get married and she moves up here to the US w/him-not much changes for us or the boys
4) They get married and he moves back home to his country to be with her-problem 1 is finding a job and way to financially make it down there.
I guess some of the issues that would affect us/boys would be-I'm quite sure he would cease payign CS and there is no way to enforce it and the visitaiton wouldn't occurr as it does w/the boys now

I have two thoughts on this-I know my boys still need their dad in their life-but he also deserves to be happy-and I know he's been quite miserable here beign so far from his friends/family/culture-he's only stayed this long for the boys. His parents are aging-all HIS support and family is there-i can't reproach him going back and living life...I think part of him feels that his boys are safe and loved and will be cared for by myself and that my bf is a very nice paternal role in their daily lives and so it's ok to let him take over 'dad'...I think that's how my ex thinks actually.

Part of me hurts because I think they still do need him_BUT if he does move I guess they could make longer trips during their school breaks in winter/summer there to visit. They will be teens soon and they can fly for almost free w/my passes. I guess that's the "right thing to do" even if he ceases paying suppoort...but anyways-just bloggin, a lot of thoughts...including the 'love does crazy things-or lust-or infatuion-lol...but two weeks? my my my