G.I JOE
My DH called me earlier and wanted to catch a movie with me. I purchased two tickets for G.I Joe but realized we didnt have a sitter for our son. Its not our weekend to have my SS so I ussumed he wasnt at my house. Sooo, I call him and tell him i'll stay home with our son and he can take his buddy to the movie. He says ok. I get home, hand him the tickets and BAM my SS comes running out! I say "hi, arent you supposed to be with your mom?" he says "yes, but my daddy is taking me to the movies!" I go to my DH and ask whats up. He says that he'd rather take his son than a friend. I say "umm, what about OUR son?" my DH says "hes too little he wont know and you were gonna stay home with him anyways!" OKAY yes our son is only 4 but its bugs me that he chose to take my SS instead of our son!! Am I crazy for being so furious!?!?! I wanna just shake it off because I know they all deserve individual time with DAD but hes not even supposed to be here today! AND my son is sitting here bored while they are at the movies! Yes he was gonna be here anyways but I feel like my DH chose SS over our son. Tell me im over reacting and i'll try to swollow it 
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compromise?
A bit over reacting, maybe just hurt, wishing you got your date too? Perhaps tommorow you go to a playground designed for younger children? Also maybe you can plan a date night for the 2 of you next weekend. I am a big fan of dates with flowers, holding hands and sneaking kisses like teens:)
calmer now...
Im still a little peeved but ive calmed down a bit and I see that Im overreacting a tad. Its not the date with me. We go on our own little dates often so its not that. I just see my little boy and know that he would love to go watch the movie with his dad! I realize I was going to watch the movie in my SS place so my son would have missed it regardless. I guess I just dont understand why my DS wouldnt want to take our son since he was already here and we know how much he wanted to see it. It wasnt easy for my son to watch them leave while he stayed home with me.I occupied him with my undivided attention so he was happy after all.
that does suck
There's probably nothing worse than a young childs look of disapointment. You should def. tell your husband how you and your son felt, guys can be pretty ignorant to such topics and he may not even have a clue.
now that I think of it...
im pretty sure my DH doesnt realize what hes doing most of the time. I think hes just so stuck in "making it up" to his son, he doesnt see how his actions could be hurtful. Hes so wrapped up in making up for the time that SS isnt with us that he always plans fun activities ONLY on the days that SS is with us. Or he brings donuts for dessert ONLY on days that SS is with us. DH attitude is even completely different. Sooo my oldest and our son will learn to only expect FUN and GOODIES when SS is around. They will learn to only expect DH to be happiest when SS is there. I dont know... that just doesnt seem fair. Uugg, so much to deal with and too little sanity =/
Plan a day for just
you and your son tomorrow while they sit home bored. That's what I always do for my little ones if I see they have had to miss out on something like that. I love having time alone with them anyway as those times are few and far between here. Skids live with us FULL TIME.
I would have been peeved too though. If he was going to take SS he should have taken BS too. That just wasn't fair. Time with them both should be equally important to him. It breaks my heart to think of your BS watching them walk out without him. Forget peeved, now I'm pissed. I don't blame you one bit.
"If your going through hell, keep on going, don't slow down, if you're scared, don't show it, you might get out before the devil even knows you're there" -Rodney Atkins
Got our plans all worked out..
So my BS son and I have decide to go to the zoo tomorrow!! YAY!!
BUT knowing myself im pretty sure ill bring along SS also. Im a sucker for equality unlike other folks in this family!