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My SS now feels the need to tell every movie that his mother allows him to watch. He's 7, she let him watch Chuckie, Jeff Dunham, Twilight, Punisher, and something about white noise, idk i dont like scary movies and don't allow them in my house.
He tells me these things knowing that I already don't think much of his mother (he tells me how she never punishes him, he has no "discipline" at her house, and he gets to do whatever he wants) so he knows that I think discipline and punishment are necessary and I have explained why. So he tells me how bad of a parent she is and then he tells me how much he loves her and hates me.
I used to like the kid, but you know what I don't even want him in my house anymore. its so stressful having him here. We are making it so that he has his own room in our house and he is throwing a fit about it because he wants to be closer to my daughter (SCARY), I want him in his own room so I can shut his door at night and know that he's not getting out.
I am dreading school starting wed. I spent a bunch of money on school clothes and then his mother told me that she was taking him shopping because the shoes I bought weren't good enough to wear to school ( I bought sketchers) so she went to walmart and bought him a pair of $10 shoes. It just irritated me. Oh I am so glad I can vent to someone besides my hubby.
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My SS used to tell us about video games, commercials, movies ..
TV shows, comic books, etc ........
We finally came up with the rule that we want him to tell us about activities that he actually did and that we were not interested video games, anything he saw or "did" on any type of screen or read in a comic book.
Any time he would start talking about these things my wife and I would start talking about spreadsheets, work policies, or meetings. Finally he got frustrated and told us "you guys only talk about boring stuff". We responded "that is how we feel about you giving us the scene by scene breakdown of movies, cartoons, video games or comic books". We told him we would love to hear about what he and his friends talked about that day, what they did outside, who they talked to, etc.....
It took years to get him to where he is now as far as actually having a life of his own that is not totally immersed in the fantasy game crap. Don't get me wrong. I did the whole Dungeons and Dragons thing when I was in HS and college. But, it did not take long for my friends and I to realize that it was a lot more fun to get in to the steam tunnels under the campus and have real adventures than it was to sit rolling dice at a table every weekend.
Hang in there. Much of this will likely pass as he gets older. The stuff that does not pass you will find innovative ways to deal with.
Best regards,
Success is rarely final. Failure is rarely fatal. It is character, courage and consistency of effort that count. Vince Lombardi (with some minor Rags modifications) To each according to their performance, screw Karl Marx. (Rags)
my bm lets me skids watch
my bm lets me skids watch the hills have eyes chain saw massacur all the bloody gory plus everything else such as movies that have nudity and other inappropriate things for a 11 and 12 yr olds to watch, she has been letting them
watch these kinds of movies since they were proll 8 if not younger they come here and say well i got to watch this this and this it's so tempting to say well thats nice that your mom is a horse sh*t parent n doesnt care how you r raised but i bite my tongue, instead i just say well thats your mom your here now and we decide whats appropriate for you to watch and i can promise you it wont be any of those movies!
**kats**