I just wanted to say, i am so grateful i have discovered this website. I thought i was starting to go insane and that i was the only step-parent who was having a hard time liking hubby's kids and dealing with a slightly mentally unstable selfish narcissitic ex (not wife though, thankgod)

I read others stories and i feel like i could have been the one that told it. Everyone has a very similar situation where the ex controls hubby with the kids because they have nothing else left in life but to try and destroy us. Poor bitches, i am starting to actually feel sorry for the BM's because of their pathetic lives. I have copped abuse over the phone though i dont know her and she has never met me, she tells the kids i am a stripper and a hooker and that is how their father met me, she has sent letters to my husband to say i have been seen as a sex worker around town. All this and she already had a newborn to someone else (who was smart enough to disappear, she has a habit of getting pregnant instantly)

I hope that all of us on here continue to look at the bigger picture and that is that WE are the ones that are winning the battle because WE have what they want and that is their EX and OUR Hubby. We must remind ourselves that all they have is a biological tie, which will get less and less each year as the kids grow up.

As for dealing with the kids that is tough, i will admit i struggle with the kids only because they belong to HER BM. Their behaviour and their selfish spoilt brat ways that they manipulate both parents astounds me but i really have to do my best to remind myself that they are only kids and unfortunately that is what they do. They should know better but are encouraged and are influenced by the BM. The kids have even gone as far as stealing from my son and taking the stuff home to show off to BM, she thinks its hilarious.

Sorry i am rambling but i have had a breakthrough and realised we can only control our own behaviour and not others.

Thanks for taking the time to read my crap!