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alwaysme's picture

Submitted by alwaysme on Wed, 09/30/2009 - 7:34pm

I dont want to start a fight with hubby so i need advice on how to just let what happened today go... I will explain

I had to take the morning off work to drive skids to pony club 30mins away as they had to be there for a test of some sort, anyway when i get there the BM was there. Now to me as far as i am concerned if she was already going there (which i didnt know she was) then why could she not pick the kids up herself and take them clearly she didnt have to go to work like i did.

So i want to call hubby and ask him about this but i cant be bothered fighting with him because he gets so defensive about his kids but me holding it in is stressing me out. I HAD TO TAKE HALF A DAY OFF WORK FOR HER LAZY ASS.

Not only that but the kids this morning were stressing me out with their fighting and bitching. They needed to get there stuff ready cos i had to get them to pony club and they sit on there ass and leave it all to the last minute!!!!

i have also decided that SD9 is an incredibly selfish little girl, she begged me to buy her bikini's so i did and when we were going to the beach she complained she had nothing to wear so i said what about the bikini's? she then said "oh i dont like to wear bikini's" WTF????? and i shouted them a drink from the shop this morning and i give it to her and all she said was "well why didnt you get me a Red Bull"? Ummmm because you are 9, and a thankyou wouldnt hurt!!!

BM has also taken to hyphenating the kids names on their school books in big bold letters, his name(their name)- her name which is not their name, its ridiculous, you can see where they have written their own name in pencil and she has rubbed it out and written over the top. i want to talk to hubby about this too but once again it will start a fight.. she is such and idiot i dont know what her purpose is with this new thing. I think she must be starting to run out of ideas in which to piss us off, execpt we never react so that she knows it gets to us.

Someone please tell me how to not let this drive me insane?

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stepmom2one's picture

Submitted by stepmom2one on Wed, 09/30/2009 - 8:07pm

are you sure she didn't change there name behind your back? I have heard this happen to others on this site....I would look into it. If the court hearing about a name change hasn't happened yet your H can dispute it.

alwaysme's picture

Submitted by alwaysme on Wed, 09/30/2009 - 8:26pm

oh i dont know, i wouldnt have thought they could without both parents consent, well legally anyway. I suppose it wouldnt stop her from putting it on enrolment forms etc anyway which i am sure hubby would not be impressed by.

stepmom2one's picture

Submitted by stepmom2one on Wed, 09/30/2009 - 8:56pm

They can put in the request and a judge decides. But if the father is not there to contest it is awarded.

If she put it on the forms and it is not legal she could be in trouble---they must have the legal name. I would have him call the school and look into it.

Kb3Hooah's picture

Submitted by Kb3Hooah on Thu, 05/20/2010 - 6:35pm

delete

Squillion's picture

Submitted by Squillion on Thu, 10/01/2009 - 8:19am

I don't know why their last name matters to you....

But DH shouldn't have you acting as a taxi service for his kids. So yes... I'd definitely say something about that.

Pantera's picture

Submitted by Pantera on Thu, 10/01/2009 - 8:20am

I agree with middlemom. You should say something like that (so that there is no reason for your husband to get defensive). DO NOT sweep your feelings under the rug or you will just get taken advantage of. I felt the same way as you and never told my DH how I felt because I didn't feel like fighting and I was taken advantage of. Your husband and his ex wife need to be held accountable for the children, not you.