We got thru this weekend's blow up and SD is being cooperative, for now. She was actually talking about the discussion in one of her classes last night at dinner. I can't say that I agreed with everything she said but I kept most of my disagreements to myself, only adding antidotes and comments that encouraged her to think about other perspectives.

Sunday night, DH had a talk with SD about what happened last week and drew the line in the sand. She agreed to come back and accept her punishment and really try to do better. During the discussion she asked a lot of questions about the custody agreement, child support and visitation. DH was a little floored by some of the things BM has told SD. He is careful not to call BM a complete loon but at what point does it become obvious that what she says is not true.

Yesterday DH followed up with his attorney on the status of the court proceedings. We knew BM had failed to respond to at least some of the requests for info but there were additional requests that we were waiting for a response.

Attorney's response, BM has not responded in an appropriate manner to the initial request to strike a mediator. Now DH gets to choose. She called his assistant and asked some questions but hasn't responded to the mediation questionnaire. She doesn't think she will be required to provide any support. She has told SD it's unfair for DH to expect her to drive to our house to pick up SD since our new house is further away (20 miles vs 6), she thinks she should have SD every weekend and DH needs to give her CS so she can afford to feed her when she is at her house. She is going to seek a deviation from the standard support agreement because for some reason she doesn't believe she has any responsibility to provide support.

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