I will be moving in with my SO Aug 1.

The positives: I won't be signing another binding lease,  I will be living with the man I love (and... his kid) and I will be saving some money/paying off debt as well. 

The negatives: A high energy/behavioral problem child around half the time.

I care about his son but he is a terror.  I suppose a lot of it is normal almost 5 year old stuff but he does tantrum far too often and is extremely defiant and off the wall hyper-active.  He has no structure at his mother's and likely never will.

My SO's son has some developmental delay that is becoming more of an issue now that kindergarten is around the corner.  He also has behavioral issues that seem consistent with oppositional defiant disorder (he is basically a constant 24/7 screaming & swearing asshole to get a rise out of authority figures)  - this is my google research, not claiming to be an expert.

Everyone who comes in contact with this boy recognizes that something is "off."  Early intervention 2 years ago would have been beneficial.

Former BM's mother hated my ex, so I never dealt with him having any sort of loving relationship with her side of the family.

My SO, on the other hand, is somewhat close with BM's parents.  Well, not close anymore, but friendly.  They're pretty young, since BM is still an infant herself, and they would hang out with my SO back when he was attempting to make it work with her for the sake of the oops child.

I had an ugly-cry epic meltdown last night in front of my SO.  This was hormone fueled mixed with me stupidly stalking my exes facebook yesterday. 

I went to SO's, and proceeded to tell him how much him having an addict ex from the same stomping ground my ex is from makes me feel trapped and forever connected to all the horrible stuff I only want to forget and run away from.  He retorted "then why do you check up on him?" ... 2 points for SO.