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4Steps's picture

Submitted by 4Steps on Tue, 11/13/2018 - 4:31pm

ok so just a couple of weeks ago I told DH I was disengaging and now suddenly, he is being nice, 14 year SD is kindly swapping rooms with us and he is going to counseling with me tomorrow.

I have noticed a pattern that when he sees me and his daughters together he finds a way to make us each go out separate ways. I also feel that he is hiding something huge from me because he shows all the signs. Tried to call TMobile to get the balance to add to my list of things to pay...can’t access my mobile app and the girl informs me that I am not listed as authorized. Something else is going on and I think he was playing the girls against me so I can focus on that being the issue. So this may be my last post here as I think there is a fidelity issue and I have Zero tolerance for that. 

 

Thanks for reading.

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CLove's picture

Submitted by CLove on Tue, 11/13/2018 - 5:54pm

Check out this site - its helpful in the instances of infidelity issues. Loads of tips on how to protect yourself, plus loads of emotional support that you cannot find in this particular forum.

Im sorry this is happening - I recall your previous posting about your situation, re-read, and just know that you are not crazy - go with your gut. Chumplady.com will say everything that I cannot. Take care of YOU. Phone records lead to passwords, lead to GPS tracking and suddenly you become the "marriage police". When I had trust issues, thats what I became, but only for a very short while.

If you have suspicions, lawyer up #1. Get separate finances #2. Sock money away for escape #3. 

If he is a sociapathic liar, Narcissist, then the only thing you can do is protect yourself and get out.

Peace be with you - keep us posted if possible.

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Submitted by TrueNorth77 on Tue, 11/13/2018 - 9:57pm

Did you ask him about the phone access? Interested to hear what he has to say about that. I would also be requesting he put me back on and not take no for an answer...

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Submitted by notsurehowtodeal on Wed, 11/14/2018 - 12:44am

You can get lots of advice and support as you move forward, even if you end up divorcing.

4Steps's picture

Submitted by 4Steps on Thu, 11/15/2018 - 12:14pm

Well we went to see a counselor yesterday and that turned into the DH show. I cried the entire time because I could not get a word in and all he kept saying was they are his kids. It was a horrible experience. He didn’t even let the counselor talk much either.