Moving to the same city as BM
So no big surprise but the skids are behind in school. They always have been and they've always been in resource classes.
SUDDENLY, DH thinks he needs to do something about it. He thinks he needs to get a place to live in the same city as BM and the skids so he can be there for them and help them catch up in school. (Skids are now 12 and 14.)
DH doesn't have any assests or money for a house, so he's trying to qualify for chapter 8 housing like BM. ($400/month rent.) Then he thinks he'll decrease his CS to BM because he'll have the skids more...a lot more.
BM and skids live 1.5 hours from me.
I suggested just going over there more often to help them with school, since he's dead set on that. They don't need to stay the night with him to do better in school...therefore, he doesn't need a house over there. He could take the RV or get an airbnb/hotel if he wants to be there multiple days of the week. Or here's a crazy idea: He could not be a disney dad on the weekends and he could help them with school then!
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I think most places there is a huge waitilist
for Section 8. sometimes so backed up, they wont even put your name on waitlist
He's not going to qualify for
He's not going to qualify for Section 8 housing if he's an able-bodied man with a full-time job, and well, another house he's paying rent or mortgage on (unless you are carrying him financially).
hmm
I own my house. We don't share money. He doesn't have any assets but he does contract work and sometimes gets a big chunk of money. He doesn't pay on a mortgage.
But he's paying rent
But he's paying rent somewhere else and has a decent income, so no. Section 8 housing is for poor people, it's kind of despicable that he's planning to try to get it.
Section 8
Section 8 is for economically disadvantaged people who need help putting a roof over their heads. Not people who want a cheap place to crash. What you are talking about is committing fraud and taking resources that are to be used mainly for women with small children and people with disabilities. He should be ashamed of himself for even considering such a thing!
Not to mention the waiting
Not to mention the waiting list is probably years long.
He's delusional if he thinks
He's delusional if he thinks bm is going to let him have more time with the kids without going back to court and fighting for it. How does he think he's going to present his case to her? Maybe suggest he tries spending a couple of nights in that town for a few weeks and see how that works out? I don't think it'll be long before he realizes that moving there would be pointless and a waste of money.
I like trial runs of things,
I like trial runs of things, especially moving to new places. If there is the opportunity to practice then it is worth taking to see how things would work in reality.
The other thing he could do is help them over Skype as well as at the weekends.