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Girlfriend not happy wants space

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Submitted by SWARTS on Sun, 04/07/2013 - 7:08am

It has been since Jan 15th that I made the difficult decision to move out of my gf's house. Last night she said she didn't want to be in a "relationship" anymore and was not happy with the arrangement of things. Me and my daughter live a couple of blocks away in an apartment and we're down my gf's house almost every day. I am there every day for her 2 boys when they get home from school(I asked her to let me do that for her and them) we have dinner my daughter goes to her NA meetings I hang out (some times sleep over just sleep nothing going on) and then we do it all again the next day.

Difficult Decision Made

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Submitted by SWARTS on Tue, 03/12/2013 - 6:15am

After living with my girlfriend and her 2 sons for the last 3 years and after another heated verbal exchange I made the very extremely difficult dicision to move out. I made it clear to my girlfriend that I still very much wanted to remain in the relationship and in her sons lives as much as she would allow in fact her son felt bad about the things he said but I felt I had been pushed to far by the constant verbal abuse and most importantly having no control over the situation had taken it's toll.

Troubled 11 year old step son

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Submitted by SWARTS on Tue, 01/15/2013 - 12:12pm

I have been with my girlfriend and her 2 sons going on 4 years living together for 3 1/2. Last night tried to discilpline 11 year old because he was starting with his younger brother yet again. Mom was up stairs for not even 5 minutes and he starts his shit with his brother who was doing his homework. I walked in the kitchen told him to shut his mouth and leave his brother alone well thats when the screaming started the "I did not do anything he touched me first blah blah blah I told him to go to his room because you raise your voice to me step child or not you will be repramanded.

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Submitted by SWARTS on Tue, 07/24/2012 - 11:04am

I am a step father of 2 boys 11 and 9. Had a blow up last night with 11 year old. His mother asked him to do something he didn't do it. I asked him to do it he ignored me then I told him to go to his room he had a melt down screaming and holoring to his mother that I'm so mean flat out lying to her that he didn't hear that he didn't hear me. End result we get in bed she says the boys are going to be the end of us. My response is no matter what I do it's wrong. I try to support her it backfires I ignore them then I'm being to distant.

Trouble with older step son 11 years old

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Submitted by SWARTS on Thu, 05/24/2012 - 12:50pm

Hello all it's been a while since i've posted anything but I have had a bad few days so need to vent would appreciatte some insight. My 11 year old step son has been increasingly hostile and disrepectful to his mother and very mean to his younger brother, he doesn't give me a hard time because I simply don't tolerate it and he knows he will be immediatly disciplined (sent to is room no yelling takes place) if it's just me and no BM around when BM is aruond I remove myself from the situation and let her handle it.

Older step son acting out

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Submitted by SWARTS on Wed, 09/07/2011 - 10:18am

Recently my older step son (10yrs old) has been acting out and being very disrepectful to his mother younger brother and grandparents....for at least the last month or so. He will tell his mother NO often...raise his voice to her when he doesn't like what she's telling him to do. I've tried the silent role all this time up until now. I have chose to come to the aid of my girlfriend ( the boys mother) and correct him when he refuses to listen to his mother. I give him several chances sometimes 2 or 3 times to do what his mother says but still he refuses to listen.

Another Vacation

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Submitted by SWARTS on Thu, 09/01/2011 - 12:53pm

I am going away for Labor day weekend with my girlfriend and her 2 boys. This will be the first trip since our disastorous disney cruise last month. However my gf's parents are going so should not be to bad. My gf has however, been on top of the boys and has not been taking any crap from either one and best part of it all is... I haven't had to be the big bad step dad and correct them she has handle it all as it should be. I have learned how to keep my mouth shut and just walk away.... because of this fact things are alot better for me and we have been getting along alot better.

Things improving

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Submitted by SWARTS on Sun, 08/28/2011 - 8:11pm

Had a good past couple of days. The boys BM (my girlfriend) has seemed to have taken steps in disciplining boys. She has been on top of them when they behave badly and has not relented. I have continued to keep quiet and only say anything when she ask for my help. However the biggest positive that happened is that she apologized for being so moody since we got back from our disatorious vacation. I also have continued to talk to others in my situation.

First Entry

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Submitted by SWARTS on Thu, 08/25/2011 - 3:11pm

I'm a stepdad to 2 boys 8 and 10. Recently I have been experiencing major problems with the older boy. We all went on a vacation for a week and it was a disaster. The boys gave their mom a very difficult time and I and the older boy had a few huge blowups. By the end of the week I could not wait to get back home. Prior to the trip things were ok but for that week it was just us 4 all together nonstop. We had never done that and i'm not sure when we'll vacation again. 2 weeks later things are still not going all that well between us.