Hello all it's been a while since i've posted anything but I have had a bad few days so need to vent would appreciatte some insight. My 11 year old step son has been increasingly hostile and disrepectful to his mother and very mean to his younger brother, he doesn't give me a hard time because I simply don't tolerate it and he knows he will be immediatly disciplined (sent to is room no yelling takes place) if it's just me and no BM around when BM is aruond I remove myself from the situation and let her handle it. The 11 year old also had a troubling episode with his BD on his birhtday when he was insulted by his father, the Step son wound up calling his mother to come get him. When the BM called the BF to ask what was going on the BF said, "He has an arritude he is a baby I don't want him at my house anymore". BM mom brought my step son home and by the time he arrived at the house he was ok no crying seemed ok. However since then he has become increasingly disrepectful and down right mean to his mother and brother almost on a daily basis. Several months ago me and the BM came to an agreement that when he acted like this and I tried to help by displining him (It's hard for me to let him talk to his BM this way so I was coming to her aid) I should just let her handle it, this is very hard for me to do but for the sake of our relationship I've done just exactly that. The problem is that unfortunatley his behavior towards his mother and younger brother is exactly how his BF acted towards his BM when they were together. Am I doing the right thing by ignoring the behavior when she's around? Am I right in literally leaving the room when acts disrepectful towards her? Looking for aome advice.