Dreading this weekend
Welp
That was fast.
Yelling and screaming phone call with SO, BM and Mil.
We're having a heat wave and she still plans on going out with bf who has no AC in the car.
She wants to bring SS who is asthmatic and SO told her no.
She said she still wants to because she's afraid mil might lash out again.
Then SO left because SS was told to shower and keep cool to be safe and he's giving them a hard time.
BM asked if he's picking them up early again on Friday. He said yes. (I didn't like that because it looks like he's just doing it to make things convenient for bm but that's just me.)
I told him not to nap when they're here if that's the case. With everything that happened I'm sure behavior is going to be off the charts. Yesterday we saw my mom and she offered to have us stay with her for a bit and SO stayed quiet. I brought it up again and he said but we can't I'm bringing the kids. I just don't see why , when I know how things are going to be this weekend that he insists on forcing us to sit through a rotten time with him and the skids.
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I feel your pain
This BM looks for any excuse to get rid of SD9. DH has been picking her up at 10am on Fridays and she stays until Monday night.
I know what you are going through dreading the weekend and the extreme anxiety it causes.
Exactly
That's exactly what I feel BM has been doing since she started dating. She was leaving the kids with mil every time because mil would offer. But if you read my last blog before this one you'll see why it wasn't entirely because she wants to be charitable. Mil is full of resentment for something that she offered to do. Well SS is most likely ODD and ADHD (impulsivity) and sd4 might be special needs but hasn't been evaluated. SS is 10 and does not listen. Sd4 is a handful because she's allowed to do anything she wants including snatch. SS also most likely has ODD/ADHD. I've had problems before because he'd bully my son bs10. He's mean to SD4 and has been for years (scary and sad, she's only 4). So it's a given that being stuck watching these kids would make anyone go crazy. Mil was silly enough to keep doing it but I think it's because she had this fantasy that everything would be okay once her favorite grandkids lived with her. They moved in Nov'19 and it's July now and mil is going nuts even though she's been trying to cope by staying at friend's houses and couch crashing. Bm doesn't parent and has the kids full time. The kids don't really obey SO either.
I didn't add this before
Because I forgot but he also went over to have a chat
With mil for what she did on Friday. (see previous blog post "she flipped her lid"
Yes it's all a crazy coo-coo circus
So many things have snowballed and affected me and my kids. It hurts. We had another argument today because it's so stressful.
So many people's choices (SO, BM, Mil even the skids because SS is old enough to be held accountable for his own behavior, he's 10) have affected my kids. Maybe not right after, but eventually it gets here.
Please take your bios
And leave him. This won't get better. It hasn't gotten better for me. I am waiting for his daughter to leave tomorrow to tell him I am done.
If I left, he'd make sure to get time with ours baby
When the skids are with him. I cannot see him doing it all by himself. Things would not get addressed. SS can be abusive, SD is picking up that behavior and that means ours would be an easy target for her.
These kids are still not in therapy their mother has them full time so if I'm going to blame someone for their rotten s||¡t behavior—its gonna be her. SO tries to handle things and it takes a while for it to work. These kids are used to running the whole house and when someone tries to put a foot down they don't take it so well.
My SKIDS BM is constantly
My SKIDS BM is constantly wanting to dump SS10 on us, my DH works full time running his own business & I work from home & take care of our daughter. BM has been off work since March and isnt due back until September!!!! Yet she barks orders at DH that he should take SKID more & basically have him when she demands on top of the court order in place. If she doesnt dump him on us, she dumps him on other family members and this is only so she can go out with her mates drinking! SKID and BM think that because I am at home then I should be available to have him whenever he calls, I have told him no on several occassions and have even ignored his calls, turns out he is only ever wanting to come early because she has made "plans" !!! I dont think so, i am no ones babysitter. After the disrespect I have been given over the last 7 years, dont come to me expecting me to do you favours! I have told my DH to tell him to stop calling and asking to come over earlier than the agreement because we work!!! He reckons he does tell him but I dont know, we cant upset precious now can we!!!!!
Same here
I watched SS in the beginning and his behavior was horrible. Horrible! He was generally rude and his behavior towards my BS was disgusting. He was such a bully to my son. I don't watch him or SD alone because he bullied her too and now at 4 I see her copying behaviors from SS and doing it to ours son 2.