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goingcrazy's picture

Academic Advice please

I am at my wits end with SD right now. See, it is almost time for school to start up again and she will be starting first grade. Last year, she was so impossible when it came to homeowrk and behavior. The last day of school, her teacher told me that she COULD be in the gifted and talented program because she is extremely intelligent and her ways of thinking are out of the ordinary. My daughter is in this program and she loves school, gets great grades, etc.

Anne8102's picture

From Captain Oblivious to Mr. Wonderful!

Hello, all! I haven't been checking in much this past week... it's been crazy busy here, what with home improvement stuff going on. I finished painting the office and am ready to move on to the master bedroom. We got new dining room furniture. We're starting to plan out how we're going to redo the kitchen and guest room. Busy, busy! We'd like to get most of it done before our company starts coming. So far, we know we'll be having visitors later this month, next month and again for the holidays. Lots to do!

Chel Bell's picture

Just checking in.....

Hi everyone.....enjoying my time with my kids....they are wonderful! Picture this......waiting at the airport for them to walk off the plane, and I feel so anxious, and excited. It was a year ago when I last got to hug them, kiss them and just "be" with them.

Stay Tuned - Part 2

Well the blow up finally happened a couple of days ago. SD19 started with the attitude again and I lost it. I told her she was not to talk to me that way anymore. I didn't let my 9yr old bioson talk to me that way or anyone else and she wasn't going to do it anymore either. Then she started with the you guys don't appriciate me, so I pointed out that we did a heck of a lot more for her that she totally takes for granted so she has no reason to complain about appriciating someone. Girl had absolutely nothing to say...first time for everything I guess. Well she sent a text to DH telling him that I was a nightmare and she wasn't staying there anymore. When he got home she told him she didn't want to be a part of his family anymore and that it seemed like he turned into whatever female he was with at the time. When he was with her biomom he was mean like her and now he's mean like me. Hmmmmm can we see a common problem here? I think she will never realize that the common denominator in all this conflict is her! Anyway, she's gone! She moved out (well at least for now)and went to live where she was moving to a month early. THANK the LORD!! DH actually backed me up on this one. I think after the father's day fiasco he was relieved to see her go. I know he didn't want her to but at the same time it's a big destresser on both our parts. It's only been 3 days and already a big difference. My bioson told me Thursday he doesn't want her to move back because she is too mean. Works for me. Of course she tried 2 or 3 times to lay the guilt trip on DH. Made him a CD and titled it "Songs for a hero", included a picture of the 2 of them when she was about 7 and wrote on the back of it "always Daddy's little girl", told him, we used to get along fine when it was just the 2 of us (again forgetting about the fathers day fiasco, and the time last summer she moved out because he was too mean, she had a party at the cottage and did a lot of damage but he was mean when he yelled at her and made her pay for it.)

Sita Tara's picture

Our Wild Whacky 4th of July!

We got pizza, watched Charlie Wilson's War, and caught fireworks on TV. We are getting old!

Well, the truth is a two year old is not too keen on things that light up the sky and go BOOOOOOOM! DH set off some nice fireworks Thur night while BSs were still here, but Anna HATED it and screamed and cried, "I don like it!!!! Its Too LOOOOOUUUUD!" She also hated DH out there in the dark with a flashlight, setting them off and running up to the deck to watch them. You could only see the flashlight jumping around as he ran and Anna was scared for him.

Cruella's picture

Funny SD

I am sitting in my recliner this morning trying to wake up. My hair is looking pretty wild and I know I looked like a troll doll. I am watching TV and all of the sudden my SD turns around and acts like she is picking up a ringing phone. She looks at me and said "Hello Cruella this is the Bride of Frankenstein , I want my hair back!" Bwhaaaaaaaa ha ha hah. After chasing her around the living room for a few minutes I woke up.

unknown's picture

wills regarding skids and bio kids

i have a question for you guys. recently my DH and i did our wills. our biodaughter (1) is with us and his son (12) lives with his mother and his stepdad. when we did our wills, my DH was adamant that we split everything half and half between SS12 and biodaughter 1. i asked why and his answer was 'it wouldn't be fair.' and i replied, 'but if we were to both die at the same time, SS12 has his mother and stepdad to support him and take care of him. his needs will be looked after. our daughter will have NO parents left and will need all the help she can get! can we not split it 60/40?' this caused a big fight and i gave in.

Wicked2Three's picture

Just wondering what everyone else does.

Early on in our relationship I requested (insisted) that DH reimburse BM for medical expenses and whatnot (extras) ONLY if she provided a receipt. I did this because I was able to prove that she was asking him for the full amount for the cost of a sporting event instead of his "half". I'm kind of curious what other things she might be trying to slip by us. Has anyone else had this experience?

Wicked2Three's picture

Fun link and ? ...way off subject

I thought this was kind of fun. I zoned out on it for a minute. It's almost like indoor sparklers! http://www.flamingcursor.com/

? Where do you guys get those great icons you are using for your

Dreamer's picture

Name Change

After reading other posts it dawned on me just how easy it is for people to find me a her. I left the name a little like the old one.

Let them Google me now! DH was on here looking tonight! azzhole

Dreamer's picture

At what point did I just stop caring?

DH took SD12 off restriction although she's still been out of control. I started a reward program with SD11 and went out and bought prizes that she gets for so many days a being good. I told DH SD12 would NOT be joining in on it.

goingcrazy's picture

Happy 4th of July

and since there have been many posts on here lately about idiot husbands.... I would like to encourage all of you to refrain from trying to light your DH on fire with the hopes that he shoots into the sky creating pretty colors!

Nymh's picture

Unusual behavior from BM - starting to get worried

BM usually calls at least 5 times a day when SS is with us. Last weekend, she didn't call at all. They only spoke when SS called her parents' house (her phone is turned off) and they went and got her to have her call him back.

I CANNOT STAND DH RIGHT NOW (SUPER VENT)

I am so upset right now I could just VOMIT. We were PLANNING on getting a hot tub (of course, adult SDs will be in it, most likely when I'm not here); I went down, put money on it.

DH decides he wants to put the whole thing on his credit card.

Most Evil's picture

Out of office

Hi, I will be out for 2 weeks. We will finally get to have SD here, haven't seen her since Dec. but I don't want her to know about 'us' Eye-wink, so have to lay low. I actually hide my laptop so she won't ask to use it, and can't get on at work. At least we get to go on vacation too! for one of the weeks.