It has been a toxic nightmare for 18 years, my DH and I went no contact with adult SDs in the last 2 years. My DH has recently been diagnosed with dementia, the SDs continue the pressures they have recruited my sister in law and her daughter and now they are all pressing that we need to let them back into our lives because they are family. We are dealing with narcissists and already know they will only cause problems, take advantage of our situation and cause huge upsetting that we don't need. In the past things were so bad, their behavior was affecting my health.

Last week was rough. I am finally feeling less tired from being sick. I had the energy to go out and work in the garden, which was really great. However, I keep getting texts and calls from my dad, who is 80. My sister got a call from my mother's doctor ( in another state) saying she may have heart failure but she definitely has dementia.  He told my sister she needs to be monitored. 

So it turns out that Disney MIL (Gma to the skids -- DH mom who he does not get along with) is making a will.  It also turns out DMIL has had dementia for quite awhile(amongst other obvious but undiagnosed mental/ personality disorders).