How long does this teenage smart mouth last?
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I don't remember my ss, now 22, being as smart mouthed as my ss14. He's a good kid and we get along fine. He sees me as his MOM...however, he's begun to have a bad attitude, smart mouth, and overall know it all attitude. He dugs a hole with his smart mouth and then just keeps talking and gets in more and more trouble.
My DH just laughs and says it's his age and hormones, which I agree, but at what point will this stop. I'm afraid I'm going to lose my mind and put him through a wall.
He also says he just gets mad for no reason and doesn't know why? I only have sisters so I've never beena round a teenage boy 24/7...is this common?
Very common. My son was not
Very common. My son was not too bad, but it lasted about a year. 14-15. Again, not too bad though. Now my DD....!! }:)
I saw this title, and it made
I saw this title, and it made me laugh... sorry!
I have three teens in the house right now, two boys. For the most part, DS 17 and 14 have kinda stopped with the smartmouth. Weird, right? It shows up once in awhile, but certainly not often.
Now, DD13 on the other hand... I could have written this post.
I think each kid is different. It's been my experience that boys "get over" it sooner than girls, but...
Well, sorry. It's a rite of passage for parents, I think.
Ha, ha, I still have a smart
Ha, ha, I still have a smart mouth. Just ask my husband, he even calls me "Mouth".
He has skater hair so he
He has skater hair so he flips it constantly and says "OMG" all the time.
I think this is the reason
I think this is the reason teenagers should have their own rooms.
When my children got a smart mouth no matter what age they had to spend time alone until they could join the family in a better frame of mind.
SD21 was not much of a smart
SD21 was not much of a smart ass. Years ago, she did that throat thing (I don't know what to call it) with an eye roll (that she didn't think DH saw) and he flipped. He is usually pretty laid back so she knew she had crossed a line.
Every now and then, she will make a snide comment but for the most part, she is not brave enough.
Yeah, it starts earlier
Yeah, it starts earlier nowadays too since a lot of parents allow their kids to argue with them. DH would let SD at age 11 argue with him. To me, that's ffffing crazy. If my parents told me to do something or whatever, I most certainly didn't say "but but but, I don't want to" or try to formulate some sort of excuse. I simply did as I was asked without backtalk or I was punished.
So, SD is 14 now and has a nasty smartmouth. DH has finally started to give her consequences for her actions and if she gives some sort of smartass comment or tries to argue, he puts his hand up and says "No more words from you. Do as your told or you're gonna lose X for the week". Sometimes she'll continue, and he'll immediately take away whatever it was he threatened and tells her "well, X is gone - what else shall we take?"
Kills it right there.
My SD18 is very smart
My SD18 is very smart mouthed. I'm so glad she's gone and she can smart mouth others. She's suppose to be around in 2 weeks for a week, but at least she's not staying with us. She prefers to stay in a motel with her HS who is an enabler with her to smart mouth and behave badly with us. We will not tolerate that kind of behaviour although when she did live with us, I'd try to send her to her room when she'd start and she'd just sit there and say "No". I would get so angry. But she's gone and I'm not the least bit sorry! Good ridance to her smart mouth, disrepect and attitude. DH is glad too. Let her mess up her own life and leave mine and her fathers alone!
I've noticed the same thing.
I've noticed the same thing. My DS22 was never like this at 14. Even my DD20 wasn't this bad. The kids tell me that it's probably because they grew up with an intact family, for the most part. I didn't divorce their dad until DS was 16. They also knew such behavior wasn't acceptable.
SS14 is extremely potty mouthed. Not so much around me, because he knows I don't like it. I also know where he gets it from, as my DH swears a lot. His whole family does, actually. However, they all know when it's appropriate and when it's not. SS14 has been busted twice already this school year for using inappropriate language in school. He has also flagrantly ignored school rules, and because of both, he's already served 4 in school suspensions this year. Not bad for only 6 weeks into the school year, hey? He also uses his learning disability as a cop out to NOT do homework. IMO, he learns differently, he's not incapable of learning. Of course, it would help tremendously if BM would give as much attention to helping him with homework, as she does sitting at the bar. It just amazes me that he's made it through school til now with failing the majority of his classes. It will also amaze me if he actually graduates from high school. I suspect he will drop out before then.
He's a good kid for the most
He's a good kid for the most part but a prime example is that he was doing homework at 8:30...I pointed out that he should have done it before going out to hang with friends. His response was that it wasn't due until Friday and I was lucky he was even doing it early...I said change your tone, shut your book, get your pajama's on and go to bed. He argued and his Dad finally told him to go to bed and maybe next time he would responde more politely.
I'm still waiting for the
I'm still waiting for the smart mouth to start. SD does sass her mom and give her a hard time when BM asks her to do chores or not to fight with her brother. We have never seen this side of SD here though. I've seen snippets of facial expressions or tones of voice that hint at attitude but she's never talked back to us. In a way I'd rather her be mouthy than the underhanded ways she manipulates DH.