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pastdue's picture

:? Hi! I'm new here. My ss is 25 goes to college he gets his bachelors in Dec. So his bm and Fam will be coming. My issues he has mentioned going for masters. I'm proud of him I've been his sm since he was three. He's been living with us since
17. I feel bad but I'm done I'm not sure how to tell him to leave already. His dad and I have two kids together they are
9 & 17 I'm tired of ss bm knowing my business.

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pastdue's picture

Thanks so much! I told his dad that he only has 3 yrs work experience and he's 25. I'm gonna be a lot happier when the scrutiny is over and done with. Thanks again Smile

RainbowsAndDaisies's picture

I am in college now and have younger (18-21 year olds) college age friends and older (getting a second or third degree) college age friends. In my 'world', if your parents help you (by letting you live at home, paying tuition, whatever) with your first four year degree thats great, but after that it is universally understood that you are an adult and on your own. let him know that you support him furthering his education 100%, just not financially. Encourage him (strongly, firmly, non-negotiably)to get some work experience in his field before returning to school and offer to help him look for his first place. Get him excited about it - first bachelor pad is always exciting. I dont understand him wanting to live at home either, no professional (or pre-professional) woman worth dating is going to take a guy seriously if he lives with his parents.

pastdue's picture

That's a great idea thanks! I will try to get him excited. Let's see if he grows wings or run to momma.