So and I sat down to discuss the summer things. Mainly SD17 and all this hoopla about her coming or not coming getting a job so many miles from us how will she get there etc. He told me that she was going to call last night so they could discuss IF she was going to behave when she comes IF she was going to TRY to work on things. TRY to accept her dad and I are together and have been for a while now..... and he told me he was going to make it very clear to her that if she comes her with ANY type of attitude she was NOT welcome to come and stay. That WE as a family are not spending our summer like we did last summer. That me and the boys will not go through that again. That we have made some pretty great summer plans and she isn't going to come in guns loaded to ruin what we have going on. It just won't happen. So I was thinking man this is just getting so much better. He see's that I am one foot out the door and he isn't willing to loose me or what we have built with our boys. We are making progress!!! WOOHOO! And for that moment I felt there is a chance... THEN she called.... and well I may as well have been a fly that was swatted before I even had a chance to circle the light.

I could hear her on the phone. We were in the car. Normally he disappears when she calls because he gets all weird about talking to her in front of me. Which pisses me off but I don't make too much of an issue out of that one. She started in on how he NEEDS to find her a job here. Well not here where we live she wants it in the town that is 45 minutes away from us. He tells her I am working on it. Don't worry I will do my best. Then I hear her say, dad you have to do this I need a job. UM HELLO..... get off your lazy ass and get online and apply to these places you are asking him about. THAT is how you apply. But what do I know right? Nothing because I'm just a dumb girlfriend. She mentioned two places that I know for a FACT they only accept online apps. But oh no he reassures her he will do his best to find her a job. So I am super pist off at this moment. WE get home and he is still on the phone with her NOT saying a single word about what we discussed. So I got out and went in the house. He stayed out in the car talking to her. About fifteen minutes later he comes in the house.. well you got out of the car quickly. I said yea I know how much you hate talking to her in front of me and frankly I couldn't listen to anymore. HE said it didn't feel like the right time to talk to her. I said WHEN IS??????? There isn't going to be. He said he would talk to her sometime before school gets out.. which for them is the middle of June. So I have to go till a few weeks before they are coming to know what the Frick is going on? Seriously........ I knew this would happen. He is more afraid of BM and his daughter than he is of me and the chance of me leaving. That is hard to swallow. I thought we were doing so good. But of course we aren't. He is saying things to keep me happy for "now"