I am the (hated) stepmother of a soon to be 10 year old. His mother is only a mother during birthdays and Christmas (in which I have to completely rearrange everything for her). I also have a MIL that tries to be his mother. I get lots of guilt trips and I can't get some of the awful words that she has told me out of my head. My FIL is the same way. My husband thinks that I am imagining things and always gives me a guilt trip as well when I don't want to go over there. I am frightened when I go over there. My SS goes over there every weekend. If he doesn't, they "Miss him so much..." If he does, "We never get a break. Y'all always bring him over." Every week around Wednesday or Thursday my SS will start hounding us about going over there. I don't like him to because he always comes back worse than when he left. He gets to do whatever he wants to do, eat whatever he wants to eat and not take a shower or clean his clothes. He will come home in the same thing he left in.It's disgusting!Then there's all kinds of lies! He's losing weight so it's all my fault that I'm not feeding him. There is always breakfast, lunch (luncables), and dinner. Also they give him old prescription medicine from my diabetic FIL for his psoriasis. We are not sure if SS has it. I think he just needs to wash and clean and stop picking at it.

He is gifted/talented. He is in Special Education for it. This causes a lots of other problems. My husband is just now informing me of all the crap that has been going on this year. I have known some of it but not all of it. My husband hasn't been signing papers, keeping up with documents or answering phone calls. I have been receiving phone calls from the school (up to 4 a day) due to my SS behavior. He is rude, disrespectful, yells, argumentative, doesn't want to do his work, doesn't care. He's fixing to get kicked out of magnet schools! I have tried numerous times to get things under control but I don't know how. I got very frustrated today. I found papers in his binder that I signed in October, still in his binder. I get phone calls that the teachers don't receive them but I think that the teacher's should look in the binder to make sure. I look in my student's and I am with middle schoolers. So I'm having a hard time believing either one of them. I am so fustrated and confused!

Another thing is taht when I talk to SS, I get this face :jawdrop:. Turn off the light :jawdrop: and he doesn't do it. Clean up the water off the bathroom floor :jawdrop: and he doesn't do it. I got so frustrated tonight I used the word "stupid" and I am making him write words and definitions 7 times each. DH works all day until 10 pm. I have forgotten about the blog and in my frustration the last week, I am glad I have a way to get things off my chest. It's all very confusing and very scary. I don't like myself!