My husband came with 4 kids, the youngest is 4, then the other is 8, the other is 9, and the other is 11. The 4 year old is a handful and when I tell him that she is, he says "She isn't for me." She makes these horrible mean faces if you try to talk to her sometimes, cannot leave the animals alone, wants daddy and mommy to feed her(my husband doesn't feed her when I am around), her mom at least can admit that she is a liar, but daddy won't and gets all defensive if I complain about her. His second grader and the four year old have to be woken in the wee hours of morning to go to the bathroom or they will pee their beds and just a few months ago, the second grader was peeing his pants because he didn't want to pause a movie or get off of the computer. Dad grounded him but when he disciplines, within 5 minutes he is back to talking sweet to them and kissing on the 4 year old the most. I tell him that is confusing to a child to be disciplined one minute and the other minute you are kissing on them. I believe that you should show that you are angry for at least 15 minutes and if it was something like having to say leave the animals alone all the time and peeing yourself, you should show them you are upset for a while. My daughter is 13, she is loud, she is a handful, if I can't admit that then I am as blind as he is. One more thing, when we met his parents at Peter Piper Pizza for his son's birthday, I went to take a picture of all the kids at the toy counter and when his 4 year old did that mean look, his mom asked me what was wrong with her and I told her that she does that look all the time and is pouting and his mom said, "That's not normal, kids don't do that, I bet she gets that from the other house (meaning her moms house)." I wanted to say, "No, she is just being her normal bratty self." AAAHHH!!!