BM told my boyfriend,His Balls are in my purse!

BM just cant seem to keep her mouth shut. She always has to throw me in the mix even when they are having a conversation that does not pertain to me in the slightest.My boyfriend said she feels very threatened by me. I dont like this woman and Im getting sick and tired of her taking cheap shots at me. I do more for her daughter than she does. One would think that she would appriciate that I do so much and try so hard. I think the only thing she should be concerned with is that I treat her daughter good. I cant help but to feel she is trying to f@#* with me. Should I call her and confront her???????? Would love feedback...thanks guys.

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I wouldn't give her the time

I wouldn't give her the time of day.

But my response would be "you bet your ass they are. where should they be, your purse?"

or you could say " you bet

or you could say " you bet your @$$ they are and they're empty too" LOL I love the Quote alwaysanxious from tskarbow!!! Think I'll use it Thx : )

haha, yes I loved it too. It

haha, yes I loved it too. It was a response to my blog from a long time ago about what you do when the skids visit you feel left out

BIG SMILE : )

Do not respond....I have to

Do not respond....I have to tell myself this daily. Nothing ever comes of it and you give her the satisfaction that she got to you...

Don't contact her at all.

Don't contact her at all. Think of crazy BMs like toddlers...any attention is good attention to them. Ignoring them, while VERY tough at times, REALLY pisses them off.

This is your BF's battle, not yours. He is the only one who can put boundaries up with BM. My DH put a No Contact order in his visitation CO so she would quit calling and harassing us. Everything was in writing from then on. VERY helpful with harassing BMs and/or ones who are attempting to "win" DH back to the psycho side.

Don't respond but fantasize

Don't respond but fantasize about doing so. . .

S.O.M: "Well it's about time. It took a (insert years you've been with biodad) testirectomy to remove them from YOUR Prada handbag."

Don't respond. I did once

Don't respond. I did once and regret it. Nothing got resolved and if anything it just made matters worse. BM apologized a couple years later for her antics, but in my mind the damage was already done. I hate her and nothing that I can do(legally) is going to change that. Now if we could have a free day just once where anything goes? I'd be able to bury the hatchet.... (Ok a gal can dream!)

Just keep dreaming stressed out mom. Don't give her the satisfaction of knowing that she gets to you. Now I treat both BMs like they are a bug under my shoe. I can't be bothered to waste my time with either of those losers.

I wouldn't confront her

I wouldn't confront her either it is a no win situation. I did that recently. BM texted my BF and said call me if its okay with your girlfriend. I was pissed she and I had a very stand offish but working relationship when it came to SD. So I thought I would call her out on her comment. She was calm and said that ever since I came along my BF would not co-parent with her, so it must be because I was jealous of her and wouldn't allow him to talk to her. I was like WTF are you talking about and it went downhill fast. Needless to say we no longer communicate. Which works for me but the call was a total waste of energy on my part and hindsight I wish I never would have called her.

As tempting as it is, DON'T

As tempting as it is, DON'T do it! She is trying to get to you & any recognition of her behavior from you will let her know it's working. Once she experiences that, it will NEVER stop.

Happiness is the best revenge. Let her see you happy despite what she says or does, & know that THAT irks her more than anything else you say or do possibly could.

Constantly failing to get under your skin (as far as she can tell) as hard as she tries...she will be the cause of her own misery.

Don't allow her to be the cause of yours.

I have heard that from BM as

I have heard that from BM as well...Anxious...I plan to use that line the next time BM#1 or #2 has a meltdown...lol

BM also tells him that I

BM also tells him that I control him. That is so far from the truth. We are both respectful of each other and do not try to control each other. The funny thing is she controlled him for near 9 years. His entire family and circle of friends told me this many times. He has even admitted it himself. Its like she is still trying to manipulate him even now. The difference is that now is eyes are open. But Im not gona lie, it pisses me off that she still tries. She just had a new baby with her boyfriend and here she is still consumed with trying to control her Ex. I find it rather disturbing. I could care less what my Ex does with his personal relationships. If anything I encourage him to move on. This one just dont want to let him go. Strange cause she was the one that was cheating on him for near 3 years with the looser boyfriend she is living with now.