We just got a letter in the mail today from our attorney with a copy of a fax she received from SS's Law Student Practitioners appointed to represent him. It states that at the last hearing officer conference last week it was discussed "statements were made regarding misrepresentations that were made to the evaluator of non-filed documents purporting to be court documents. Has the evaluator been informed of these misrepresentations?"

This is what I assume they are talking about. I tried to adopt SS in March, but we got the one judge that does not interpret the law the correct way and she was not going to allow it so I withdrew it instead of having the record show it was denied. While in the court house, BM, my husband, our attorney, her attorney, and the attorney appointed to represent SS (different one then now) devised a custody/visitation settlement. She verbally agreed with all of those witnesses to giving my husband sole custody, paying child support, 2 phone calls a week, supervised visits every other weekend by a professional at her cost, but before visitations begin she must pass a hair drug test and have a clear criminal record check.

Her and attorney and ours communicated back and forth for 2 weeks trying to iron out who would be the supervisor and when and where she would go to do the hair drug test. One day, our attorney was served with a contempt motion again my husband asking for a change of custody and visitation. In this motion HER ATTORNEY misrepresented facts to the court by saying the adoption was dismissed and not withdrawn and failed to mention that they reached a settlement and she agreed and acted upon it. In response to this motion, our attorney drafted a perfect response, but for some reason didn't file it. For that reason among others, we now have hired a new attorney. At that hearing, she was given 5 hours supervised by her friend every weekend. After 2 months of these visits, she touched SS inappropriately and did some unknown thing to his rectum causing bleeding for over a week.

Ordered by the court, my husband met with the evaluator twice since for an update. The evaluator wanted to meet with SS, but didn't want my husband to miss more work so he wanted me to bring him. When he met with my husband, he told him about the settlement that she agreed to basically to prove to him that she doesn't even really want him based on all the other evidence we have plus the fact that she voluntarily agreed to significantly less than what was ordered. He asked my husband what were the settlement details. The only place were these details were written was on the response pleading that our attorney never filed. We had the attorney print out that pleading, so when I brought SS to see him I could give him that to look at. As I handed it to him, I explained exactly what it was, a draft of a response that was never filed with the court. This meeting with SS took place the day before the hearing officer conference. The evaluator called our attorney and said that he wanted to participate in the hearing via conference call as he does it all the time.

My husband spoke with the evaluator this week and he said that they did not call him for the conference. He also said that BM had not called him nor returned any of his calls and that he was even going to call our attorney to tell her that she needs to speak with BM's attorney to make her contact him. With all of this, I am extremely confused by these allegations and how they would have even known about anything we had given him. If he wasn't called that day for the conference, hasn't spoken to BM, called our attorney to contact hers, how the hell did they discuss this alleged "misrepresentation"? We tried calling our attorney and tried calling the law students and can't get a hold of anyone. The evaluator was very sympathetic to us and said that he wanted to make some serious changes like sole custody and less visitation to her.

If these people contact him as they say they will and make him think we lied and misrepresented documents to him, it could seriously make him not believe us. At this point, because she has lied and manipulated the hearing officer into believing we coach and PAS SS that my husband should go to jail for it, the evaluator is our only chance at keeping my husband free and having a reasonable custody situation. This may seem outrageous and far fetched, but this is how we have been treated. We have been unbelievably screwed by this hearing officer a lot and in quite unlawful ways. I'm so worried and stressed now with a severe headache that I feel like a could have a stroke. I'm so tired of days, nights, and weekends being ruined by another shoe dropping. Living in this constant state of fear is killing me.