what would be worse?
To pass the hours while bf is ignoring me in favor of skid, I have an active brain. Here is an issue constantly on my mind. What do you think? We have skid 50% of the time, ie. my life stinks 50% of the time. BM is a total psycho bitch, makes the schedule, changes it at the last second, and spends her life making sure she has controls of BF and therefore of me...using skid as her pawn to achieve this. I fantasize constantly about her being dead...and of course all the the painful ways this could take place }:) When I hear about an accident on the radio, I always think "oh, maybe its BM," with a little hope in my brain. But then I think...if BM was gone, we would have skid full time. As in every single stinking day. And I waver back and forth over which would be worse. Anyone else ponder this?
I'd much rather have BM
I'd much rather have BM alive. Can you imagine how much MORE my DH would coddle and baby SD18 if she was not only a "child of divorce"TM but half an orphan? OMG!
No way. I love my SKs, but I
No way.
I love my SKs, but I don't want them full time. Right now I only have to deal with Crazy BM. If she dies and they come live with us, I would have to deal with her 3 crazy sisters. Of course they will have to make sure that the evil woman their sister always talked about isn't mistreating their nieces.
Much as I would like to see
Much as I would like to see BM involved in a industrial accident (oh wait - she would actually have to be involved in an industry/job first!), the last thing I want is the skids full time. I already disappear when they are here. I would simply evaporate from the earth if we got them full time.
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I think dying is too good for
I think dying is too good for BM. I'd prefer some sort of ongoing torture for her, as long as said torture would allow her to take her kids every weekend.
We have SD every weekend and I sometimes think I'd rather have her Monday-Friday than every last stinking weekend. Weekdays are filled with school, work, homework, activities, and so forth. We've had her on random weekdays and I really think she acts better in the "routine", plus the rest of us would get to enjoy our weekends more. This very well could be a grass is greener scenario, though.
Don't know. We were on the
Don't know. We were on the other side of the fence for four years. From ages 11 to 15, SD lived with us primarily, so we had her during the school week and one or two weekends a month. BM had her about three weekends a month (that's it). I did NOT enjoy that because it seemed like the kid was there all the stinking time. Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday am, and Sunday pm. Drove me up a wall! And often SD would have activities on Saturday so BM would wait to get her until after the activities were done, so then SD was there on Saturday am as well. No thank you!
Yeah, I figured it was
Yeah, I figured it was probably just a "grass is not always greener" thing. It's fun to fantasize what an imaginary better life would be like, though...
Oh, and one thing I forgot to add: SO says he would actually PARENT his daughter if he had her during the week. That's probably just a pipe dream, too, but it still sounds nice...
BM dead, I hope not. I don't
BM dead, I hope not. I don't want the skids a part of my life full time. No way, as horrible as she is, she needs to reap what she is sowing...and I want to see it. And I don't want to live daily with what she has sown.
Her day is coming and it will be a cold day in hell before I help her.
But I drew a line in the sand this year and told my SO no more changing, trading, etc...
I have a life, we have a life and it is not going to be based on when crazo decides you should have the kids.
He follows the CO to the T no exceptions. Now everyone is happy except Bm, oh so sorry BM all your manipulation didn't work out for you. My SO told you NO and now you are living with the mess you created. And I have my SO two weekends a month with no skids. YEAH!!
come on now. A poster named
come on now. A poster named "mejohn" has a thread going about his son's BM being deceased. I don't think this is appropriate to joke about....ever.
come on now. Not a joke....a
come on now. Not a joke....a fantasy!
Well......I have SK full time
Well......I have SK full time and I do wish BM would just go away. Not like she's around AT all anyway; but when she is SD14 acts like BM is the best EVER........give me a break she has only seen SD 2 days in 33 days...........ugh
BM here will not go away!
BM here will not go away! She does have a debilitating illness that might keep her from causing problems for us. I feel badly for SKids, despite all the horrible things she has done to them they still love her and she is still their mom. I believe that Karma bit her ass, I am sorry for all her troubles but they are HER troubles, not ours. I understand the SKids loyalties, despite all the PAS BM has done and all the damage she has caused these kids. SD is currently in a secure juvenile facility, her twin brother decided he could not handle house rules and respect so he dropped out of high school and moved out...he's 'the man'! Pardon me if I sound facetious here, SS actually had two addresses in the space of a year and now is back using his mother for all he can get.
DH finally began tough love with them both. It took me disengaging for him to see how bad they really could be. Their badness is a direct product of learned behaviors and genetic makeup. DH saw that molly coddling them really was not helping them at all and is on board with me now. They made 18 recently and we no longer have to bail them out of juvenile, adult jail is where they will go now! Apparently if you do not collect your child from juvenile detention you are considered remiss in your parental duties....bless this one cop who told us that if we did not get/respond to the call we do not have to pick kids up! Bless caller ID!! We ignored calls a couple of times...OOPS...OUR BAD!