Ok so long story short, BM has not been in my daughter (technically step-daughter) life for about 3 years. She is in the media all the time for ripping people off, stealing, scamming, breaking the law, copying other women in the media all to gain attention. I could name a few others that would WOW everyone but then it would pin-point it straight to her. She is a bad bad selfish human.

Anyways, my SD6 has called me mom from day 1 (about 2.5) years ago. She knows that she has a biological mom but wants me and her dad to tell everyone that she came out of my belly and that I'm her real mom not the BM.

The BM decided to play her court games again (all thanks to the grandmother forcing her, she controls the cash flow to the BM, she BM will listen to anything she says or makes her do) the last court order was phone contact and visitation at a center. She choose not to do ether until a year and half after that order was made. So now she wants to call 2 times a week. Half the time she doesn't bother calling which confuses my daughter. Other times she wants to call to make an argument, especially after my daghter chooses not to talk to her on the phone OR just talks about HERSELF because she is selfish or maybe just can't handle the things my daughter does in a normal day to day life. It's always about the BM, what she did, where she went, her animals, where she lives, never asks about this things to my daughter. She blames us for our daughter not wanting to talk, but of course it's not her fault.

BM Promises that she will see her shortly and take her to all these cool places, however my daughter agrees with her but after she gets off the phone she tells me that "ya right that won't happen.". Also, it most likely won't happen because of the court system. She also makes sure to tell my daughter that she is her only mom and that she came out of her belly and I can't be her mom. However, my daughter disagrees with her and gets very angry when she says that. My daughter makes sure to tell me she is just nice because she doesntwant to hurt our feelings or hers. She doesn't want BM blaming us for anything like she does. I always make sure to keep a positive conversation when talking about BM. Of course would love to tell her the truth but we can only tell her so much for her age.

My husband is very very great at handling all of this for our daughter and for me. But it's hard! It's hard to have this stranger pop into my daughters life and confuse her. And it's pretty annoying to read her texts saying that my husband still has feelings for her and all this crap that is so out of this world.

Any advice? Anyone is a similar situation? Its so rare for my situation because it's usually the father that is a dead beat but it's the other way around...