Today's solutions are often tomorrow's problems. Modern day experts thought they were on the right track with the "self esteem" movment, too a few years back (in the eighties) and we are now paying the price for it (Twenty something narcissists/sociopaths whose parents subscribed to the now recognized as FAILED "self esteem movement")
lol...I did share my bed with my daughter until she became to big for us to be comfortable, but that was before I was married, my sister and her DH did it for years and it put a damper on their love life. I would say hell no now. I think it does not damage the kid until you try to push them out and it can not be good on a marriage. But keep in mind on these "experts" they are some of the ones that are contributing the the problem of enabling our children till they die. Independance needs to be taught at a young age, and IMHO it starts at bed time.
I did see this article and don't agree - Cosleeping is not for me. However, apparently it's the thing for my DS 3.5 when my DH is on the night shift. I put him down at night in his own bed and then at some point, he ends up in my bed and then DH moves him back when he gets home in the morning. this only happens when DH is on the night shift rotation which is every 2 weeks.
My babies slept with me and DH until they were weaned at around 2 years old. I loved every minute of it. They both spoke & read early and are today in gifted programs at school. DD has been moved up 2 grades. DS is scheduled to be tested for moving up at least one grade this year.
My kids slept with me until they were sleeping through the night-anywhere from 4 months until about 9 months. I had zero difficulty transitioning them into their own cribs, room. I used a wedge type thing for the baby to sleep in so they would not roll off the bed nor could I easily roll on top of them (I am also a very light sleeper) and never felt they were at any risk. My kids are also all gifted, have good social skills, and are very independent. That being said-I would not want to cosleep with my kids when they were much older than that. However, occassionally they have all slept with me up until about 8 years of age-at different times (bad dream, sick, whatnot). Sometimes I think people make too big of a deal of things. Cosleeping works for some not others. That's great. Some kids that cosleep probably turn out horribly. Some kids that do not cosleep turn out horribly.
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Today's solutions are often
Today's solutions are often tomorrow's problems. Modern day experts thought they were on the right track with the "self esteem" movment, too a few years back (in the eighties) and we are now paying the price for it (Twenty something narcissists/sociopaths whose parents subscribed to the now recognized as FAILED "self esteem movement")
Ex/pert Has been + drip under pressure.
lol...I did share my bed with
lol...I did share my bed with my daughter until she became to big for us to be comfortable, but that was before I was married, my sister and her DH did it for years and it put a damper on their love life. I would say hell no now. I think it does not damage the kid until you try to push them out and it can not be good on a marriage. But keep in mind on these "experts" they are some of the ones that are contributing the the problem of enabling our children till they die. Independance needs to be taught at a young age, and IMHO it starts at bed time.
I did see this article and
I did see this article and don't agree - Cosleeping is not for me. However, apparently it's the thing for my DS 3.5 when my DH is on the night shift. I put him down at night in his own bed and then at some point, he ends up in my bed and then DH moves him back when he gets home in the morning. this only happens when DH is on the night shift rotation which is every 2 weeks.
My babies slept with me and
My babies slept with me and DH until they were weaned at around 2 years old. I loved every minute of it. They both spoke & read early and are today in gifted programs at school. DD has been moved up 2 grades. DS is scheduled to be tested for moving up at least one grade this year.
My kids slept with me until
My kids slept with me until they were sleeping through the night-anywhere from 4 months until about 9 months. I had zero difficulty transitioning them into their own cribs, room. I used a wedge type thing for the baby to sleep in so they would not roll off the bed nor could I easily roll on top of them (I am also a very light sleeper) and never felt they were at any risk. My kids are also all gifted, have good social skills, and are very independent. That being said-I would not want to cosleep with my kids when they were much older than that. However, occassionally they have all slept with me up until about 8 years of age-at different times (bad dream, sick, whatnot). Sometimes I think people make too big of a deal of things. Cosleeping works for some not others. That's great. Some kids that cosleep probably turn out horribly. Some kids that do not cosleep turn out horribly.