Well it has been an interesting weekend around here to say the least. Since Ding Dong sent me his letter telling me he was getting the girls for his 2 weeks of summer time with only 3 days notice it has been one issue after another. Let's take one issue at a time shall we?

1). Finally got a call back from my attorney who assured me I was in the clear for telling Ex no. He is the one who did not follow the guidelines for his vacation time. He also told me to get a written copy of the threatening voicemail he left in case we need it for court.

2). Called my cell phone provider to have a written court approved copy of the VM sent to me. Found out I need a supenea from the courthouse to get it, but since I have called them to tell them I need it they will make sure the message is saved until I get the paperwork to them.

3). Received a call from EXFIL about Ding Dong's summer time. He was telling me DD (Ding Dong) is GARUNTEED at least 2 weeks and I am in violation of the CO not DD. I set him straight on that one. I can't be blamed for DD not doing what he is supposed to do. He then started telling me DD isn't the only one not following the CO. Oh really? Please tell me how I'm not following the CO. He couldn't. He just KNOWS I'm doing something not right because DD always comes out on the bad end. As nicely as I could while still being blunt I told him a 35 year old man should be able to follow CO's and take care of himself. He wouldn't come out on the bad end if he did what he was suppose to.

4). EXFIL also threw at me the fact that I have DD and grandma blocked from the girl's cell phone and that we should unblock them, it is the only rightthing to do. I asked him if he knew the REAL reason they were blocked. DD told them I just didn't want any of his side of the family talking to the girls. It didn't take long for me to tell him that in 3 days time DD made 17 calls to the girls totalling 322 minutes. This is not counting all of the text messages as well. Had I wanted dto keep them from the girls I would never of even put their numbers in the girl's phone to begin with. I explained to EXFIL I talked to DD and asked him to limit the calls not stop calling. The phone is for emergancies. Also suggested Ex helps pay for more minutes or supplies a phone just for his use to them. All of these suggestions were refused. DD also encouraged the oldest girl to lie to me and taught her how to unblock his number so he could call. He then encouraged her to take on a parental role and she was to make sure I followed the same rules she is to follow in regards to the phone. No.....I don't think so. EXFIL was surprised i think at this info but still went on to tell me I should unblock DD number as well as EXMIL, to add his, his other 2 sons and his daughter to their contact list. Not happening.

5) Went to the court house friday afternoon, the same day DD wanted to pick up the girls at noon, to get my child support check and to find out what I had to do to get the supena for the voicemail. While in there I found out that in my county all I had to do was to take my phone to the Sheriff's office and let them listen to it. They will then make a report and have it on record. I did that, but am also getting a written record to be on the safe side.

6). As I was leaving the clerk's office the State's Attorney was leaving his office and called me over (Yes, I live in a very small community and most of us are on a first name bases). DD went to his office when I did not show up and told him to arrest me and put me in jail. DD told the SA I was guilty of parental kidnapping, violating a CO, I am keeping him from his girls in everyway I can. SA told me he told DD he would look into it but he could tell him I would not be arrested and put in jail. I guess DD left mad. I then told SA what the real story was, showed him a copy of my CO, and his letter. SA laughed then and said I had nothing to worry about. He told me he would call DD back and tell him so. I then let him listen to the VM DD left. SA then asked me if I wanted to do anything about it. I told him no not right now but I want it known he left it in case he does try anything.

7). I have since then had 2 more nasty phone calls but I have just ignored them. My concern now though is that when they go to DD's this weekend he will try to keep them instead of returning them on Sunday evening. SA told me to call him Sunday evening if he does not return the girls. He will send a sheriffs deputy to his house to remind him to bring them home. Then he will be the one in trouble. The bad part of that though is that the girls will be there and they will get scared. DD calls the cops on me all the time and each time they panic because DD tells them I'm going to jail. So, I don't want to do that to them too.

8). Now I'm just waiting for a letter in the mail telling me he's taking me back to court for the visitation and phone issues. As of Friday afaternoon he hadn't filed anything, but he was also hoping i was going to be going to jail too.

Thanks for reading. I know in some aspects it does sound like I'm trying to limit his involvement with the girls and I'm really not. I am just tired of him doing whatever he wants with no regards to the girls, me or the rest of my immediate family.