So my posts run about two weeks apart because that's the time between visits! I wish I could get on here more but no time. Hope everyone is doing well.

Well the BM is really starting to get on my nerves. We had SD this past weekend and she was pretty good. We're get BF moved into the house before the wedding so we're really busy. I had showers and stuff so I generally stayed away this weekend. Well SD had a pretty good time. Friday night we let her have two friends to spend the night despite the chaos in the house. They helped paint all night and had fun. The next day the girls swam all day- yes in October- 92 degrees! Anyway, after they got done swimming the girls dad came to get them and SD wanted them to stay again but they couldn't. So after she begged me to talk BF into, he let her go to their house for a little bit. She ended up falling asleep so he let her STN. Next morning went and got her. Well they came to the house and me and SD played outside then went inside bc she wanted to paint her closet pink. She acted great with me. You wouldn't have known there were any problems.

So BM comes to get her and we're all in the same room together and you can see the worry/ guilt on this child's face. She didnt look at me or anything. Well they left and BM says SD just lost it in the car. BM says she is not going to help us with SD anymore. She's not gonna force her to have fun with us. Bc when SD talks to BM she completely lies about having fun. I know she feels guilty and I understand. But BM doesn't believe this. She will not understand that SD doesnt want to hurt her feelings. BM just keeps saying it's my fault and I'm ruining SD's life. Keep in mind I came along way after divorce- never knew them when they were married. Well BM ended grounding SD for lying to her. I tried to get BM not to punish her but to just try to understand and believe me when I say she does have fun. I dont want her to get in trouble and hate me for it.

But the main point of this rambling is that the BM just wont get the fact that SD does love us and does have fun with us. SD makes up all kinds of stories to BM about how miserable she is with us. but she's not! I dont know how to handle this at all. It's four weeks til the wedding and she says she's not coming unless BM comes. BM refuses to come. But when she's with us she kinda acts like she wants to be there. I dont know!! Any suggestions on how to deal would be great- thanks in advance

I don't mean for it too sound like I'm bashing the BM. I'm just frustrated that she can't understand the pain her daughter is feeling. she does care but just wont comprehend that it's not our fault or hers