I guess I have to just come to the realization that I will ALWAYS be second fiddle; to his narcissistic, manipulative ex, to his 2 spoiled rotten, selfish, greedy brats. His kids are 10 and 12, both girls and they act like they are 4 and 6. They have been coddled and have had everything handed to them. I remember when we discussed having me move in with BF. The big stupid half million dollar home that his ex just HAD to have and he graciously gave into her! They were separated 2 years and all the while, he was paying her mortgage AND his new mortgage. In the divorce, she was supposed to keep the house...and at the last minute and after knowing he had just spend over $25k on his new house, she decides she doesn't want it and dumps it back on him. I won't forget the first time we walked through the house after she moved out; the thoughts I had going on! First, she left this big huge house one big huge mess! If she didn't want to move it, she left it. The basement looked like Toys R Us threw up everywhere. I thought to myself "Two little girls is all they had? What the hell is all of this? I can't even see the floor!" It took 3 big 27 foot Uhaul trucks to remove all of her shit! Then, once the house was empty, good god! I don't think she new how to even surface clean! I had to use a steam cleaner on the inside and outside of the cupboards alone! Who would do this to a house like this? Oh, I know, an unappreciative, greedy, selfish, money hungry ass. Now...I've lived here for almost 2 year and all I ever hear is "This is my moms kitchen, why are you using my moms closet, my mom painted this room a certain color and doesn't want it changed, you're not allowed to take down wallpaper..." and BF says....T ah-dah!!- NOTHING. He just says, they don't understand whats going on yet. WTH? You were separated 2 years, that was 4 years ago! They most certainly do know whats going on! Idiot. Is he really that dumb? Is he in denial?

The world revolves around his kids. It doesn't matter what anyone else's schedules are, what plans were made, if his kids have something to do...and usually last minute, well that's just all that matters. The ex always calls him up last minute to say "I'll be out of town for the next week so you're taking the kids." End of discussion. All of a sudden he's rearranging his business schedule, personal schedule and thinks everyone else should just do the same.

She's constantly got her hand out for money. She gets over $1200 a month in CS, then he pays over $5000 a year for private school and all activities, and buys them clothes, school supplies, and oh let's not forget all the birthday presents for all the parties they go to...and of course, he only finds out the day of..so again, to hell with the rest of the world.

Last week, she insisted on him giving her $50k...which he would have only had to do if there was equity in the home which there is not...thank God! He's been forced to let it go into foreclosure and she's telling him that HE WILL pay her that money. NOT. Then, she goes on to text him how if he doesn't have all of the $50, she'll take $20k because she either has to turn in her leased car that he signed for OR it will get repossessed. Well Mr. Repo man, repo away!

This woman is supposedly getting married this weekend...yet is some sick twisted way, she wants to pretend like she's still married to my BF but just not live together or sleep together. WTH?

And he just ignores ALL of this...I've heard him say NUMEROUS times, I will get you the money when I get it, you know business is down so you have to be patient. UGH! Hey, how about saying look bitch, you sucked me for every penny for the past 12 years and I have NOTHING to show for it! (Well, on the flip side, he allowed it). But we're not married anymore and I owe you NOTHING so get the F off my back!" Oh no...we wouldn't ever want to say anything mean to her or upset her and hurt HER feelings but yet here I sit, the woman who cooks and cleans, completely got his office back on track so business was good, helped repair his home, tried to clean up his credit...which was pointless, so I gathered up all the necessary documents for the bankruptcy...which included having the last 3 years of his taxes done because wouldn't you know, "I thought they were filed?" never pays attention! Yes, 3 years of no taxes filing because his ex said "Yeah, they were filed" and over $100k to the IRS he owes. This is particularly ONE of the many reasons I WILL NOT MARRY THIS MAN. He is a good man, he has a big heart, and at times, we feels like soul mates HOWEVER; the ex and his kids are determined to tear us apart.

My kids love him too, and he is good to them, but again, when his kids are around, my kids sense the double standards and favoritism. I might add, I do not show favoritism. I treat them all the same...but my BF told me a couple of months ago that his 12 yr old did not like me treating her like she was one of my children. And I asked him just how does she expect me to treat her? His reply, "She should be treated more special." OMG! I don't think so.

The way I see it, this is not their home, it's their vacation home. They have no chores, they make messes and he doesn't make them clean up, the 12 yr old only wants to lay around and eat and watch TV and she's constantly coming into the kitchen when I'm trying to cook or bake and she starts sticking her hands into stuff...I did manage to stop that by telling her to get out, I do not need her sticking her dirty hands into whatever is I'm cooking because people wouldn't appreciate it and it's gross! When I see her head towards the kitchen I just look at her and say OUT. Seriously, she just wants to eat all of the time. I find hidden food in her bedroom all of the time. If I'm baking cookies and I know I bought chocolate chips but there gone...rest assured I can find the EMPTY package somewhere in her room. What does she say? "It wasn't me."...and dad says "she said it wasn't her." Then someone explain to me how the damn wrapper landed in her flippin room???????? UGH! Please. Same thing with my good baking bowl I found in her closet with graham crackers, peanut butter and chocolate frosting in! Oh, we have ghosts in the house who fix themselves a treat and then eat it in the closet and leave the dirty bowl behind? I get it! Silly me.

I could go on and on. BF is just to much of a wuss to put his foot down and stop the nonsense. I can deal with them disrespecting me, I'll just start calling them out on it or I'll take their stuff away and hide it and then say "I haven't seen it." But all the other stuff that goes on...really! I can't live like this. I will not live in a home where the kids are running it and controlling everything or reporting back to the BM about everything. He rewards bad behavior and I'm sick of it. They make a mess and they've been told to clean it and then don't, he says fine, you know what, I will clean it this time, but next time, you won't go here or you won't do that. Five minutes later, "dad, are you sill taking us to DQ?" Oh, yeah. I forgot...sure let's go. SERIOUSLY??????? I could type all day. Enough said for now.