asking her to forgive me and that I apologize for my past actions. Even though I feel that she has been the one who has created this mess. I had to do it for my peace of mind. I will no longer let her burdens be mine, I'm not accountable for her actions. My role as a step parent is to support her and my husband decisions regarding my SD. I understand and accept that responsibility. Negativity and animosity is like an infectious disease and I will not allow it to take control of my life.

Some might say I'm crazy for apologizing to someone who can not take responsibility or accountability for their actions, but in order to move forward, I have to show my SD's mom kindness and what I contributed to this mess. I also no first hand the emotional baggage that a child carries when their parent's divorce, and I will no longer add to it. I love my SD too much to let my anger get the best of me. It doesn't stop when you Step children turn 18, There is their wedding day, the day they become a parent themselves. What kind of message Im I leaving to all my kids. How do I except them to act and be kind to others, when I myself do not?

Sometimes in life in order to get past bitterness, you have to make the first move and ask to be the one to be forgiven. Let me tell, what a freeing feeling it is to let it go. Divorce is ugly it's even worst for kids. I cherish and love my SD and in order for her and I to have continual growth in our relationship, I made the first move. It just goes to show you how much you are willing to do for the love of your children.