I am sorry to hear this - I thought you had good perspectives on things. Sometimes I've posted and been not exactly happy with the responses too, but it's an anonymous board, and people can say what they want. I've found some good things in those posts I don't like sometimes - some truth telling can happen there that I may not like. And I can always ignore or let those clearly non-sensical responses roll off.  But whatever you decide, good luck, and I know you'd be welcomed back.

I know this might not sit well, but I would rather have some truth rather than an echo chamber that just bounces back at me what I want to hear.  Of course, we all love hearing that we are right, but sometimes our perspective is skewed, and we need an outside opinion to help re-evaluate.  I think you were venting your frustration in you last post like “We just spent 6k on this kid and that’s not enough now she wants extra.”   That is annoying AF, but even with my own birth children we took them on trips and still got, “Is that all we are doing?”  Like no they have no concept of cost or time it takes for us to do these things, they don’t learn that until they must start doing it themselves.

We are each different people, in different households, with different stories and different ways of communication. I'm sorry this isn't a good fit for you. But you were never going to hear only what you wanted to hear. And that's why this site works so well for most of us. We need different view points, different ways of working things through and yes, even things we might not want to hear in way we might not like. That's how life is and as a mom/stepmom/grandma/partner/older person I prefer honesty, even when I might not like it as I read it, it gives me different points of view and helps me see it from a different angle and that's okay. You may prefer different and that's okay too. 

I do hope you find a site that does work for you. 

This is the internet. You never really know who is behind the screen. What their experience is, what their triggers are, etc. I had to take a break from this site after one poster was, in my mind, verbally abusive in response to one of my posts. To the tune of "Just stop posting!! You make me sick!!" Basically telling me that unless i left my SO I didn't deserve to post on this site. Multiple times under one of my posts. All i can think of is that i reminded her of her younger self at a time she felt stuck in a bad situation.

Anyway, that was one person. There have been posters who I suspect were disgruntled skids who came here to disparage stepmothers. It's an anonymous forum. No background check or qualifications needed. You just have to take what you read with a grain of salt, but also consider that there is some really good advice to be had. 

I don't think anyone here is a "cowardly keyboard warrior." What I love about this site is people are honest. The fact that I might not hear what I want to hear on here (and it has happened a few times) is a chance I willingly take. LOL: Recently in one post I was told that I had a moment of temporary insanity. And they were right! I appreciate that honesty. 

In all honesty, I have a hard time grasping why someone would complain about the same situation over a period of time and seemingly never do anything to change it. People give you various ideas and input and you don't even respond. Instead, you get mad at us, too. You do not have to be a victim. You really don't! Like everyone, you deserve a peaceful and happy life. What do you need to do to attain that? Good luck. 

Don't go.  Dealing with blended family relationship drama and engaging in a community populated entirely by others who have or do struggle(d) with their version of your journey is not always a tender experience.  Remember, advice is of two versions. Advice that you assess and think will work. And advice that you assess and think does not apply.

I land on both sides of that line with my advice as well as the input from others.  I appreciate all of the input.  Not all of it applies to me.   It is not infrequent that I irritate some STalkers with my black and white no gray world view and as it applies to standards of behavior and standards of performance.

Stay, your input is valuable and the complete picture of input from others will give you some effective perspectives to consider.

Be good to yourself.

I didn't always like to hear what people said when I first joined this site but in retrospect some of it was exactly what I needed to hear. Take what works for you and leave the rest. You can't please everyone nor can everyone please you.

Most of us here have PTSD. and your problem brings up our past memories of ours.  Most of us kissed our SK a$$es and got shafted in the end.  Saying if we had to do it over again. We would do it differently. We woukd get the same result but we will not be ass Kissing .

If you think taking SK on vacation do it. Hope you feels better about this. Come here to vent. But you must understand you will get people venting back to you .   This is a venting place. You vent and you get vented back .  No one here it trying to hurt you but to help you 

I've always appreciated that this isn't an echo chamber, and I feel like most people offer feedback or advice from a generous place. Even if I don't agree with it. It's rare that I've seen someone here being flat-out unkind or disrespectful, and if they are, someone usually calls them out.

I do think that if you simply want to vent and have your feelings validated, it's totally fine to just say that. "I'm not looking for advice or opinions, just need a virtual shoulder to cry on." Or something along those lines. Most people will respect that. Otherwise, I think the default assumption here is that people post hoping to gain additional insight or to learn from other peoples' common experiences. Just my opinion.