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DH actually held ET accountable!

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Submitted by lieutenant_dad on Mon, 08/15/2022 - 8:50am

In a previous blog, I was venting about ET not having a vehicle that would work in the rain. Well, that has now evolved into not having a working vehicle at all. I am so incredibly tired of her not being able to do the bare minimum but expecting to maintain Mommy Dearest status.

Apparently DH felt the same. YSK was supposed to go to ET's this past weekend, but we had plans on Sunday so couldn't take them down and pick them up. So DH messaged her, said we had plans, and if she couldn't handle transport on Sunday that he couldn't bring YSK.

So YSK didn't go to ET's. What I'm curious by is whether she has a working vehicle by next weekend when OSS goes back to college and if she insists on helping him move back. Can't manage to have a working vehicle to help her youngest get back and forth to their fencing class, or therapy, or really anything. But being able to look proud and like she "helped" OSS? Yep, bet she pulls money out her arse to make that happen.

ETA: And we had a lovely weekend! My sister and I took YSK school clothes shopping and found them some cute new clothes (and I nearly had a meltdown over the cutest pair of baby overalls at Old Navy). Then Sunday we did a family outing before having dinner with my dad and SM (his brother/my uncle recently passed, so wanted to check in with my dad to make sure he was doing okay). Much better than driving halfway across the state to ET-ville.

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AgedOut's picture

Submitted by AgedOut on Mon, 08/15/2022 - 10:41am

ET stay home? 

 

(sorry, I'm punny today.)

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Submitted by CLove on Mon, 08/15/2022 - 4:35pm

And it drives (haha get it) me nutzo. I was picking up and dropping off more than she was.

Husband wasnt feeling well this entire weekend (non COVID) and I put it out there that maybe she should go to her mothers. "well I dont want to bring anything to her place, so I should stay here".

To which I responded "what about school transport?"

Her "well she would have to do this and that because shes now doing an after school thing..."

Me "well if anything happens shell have to figure it all out"

Why cant these BMs just figure it out? Because of us doing it...!

Sounds like a nice weekend shopping for little Lieutenant Biggrin

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Submitted by MissK03 on Mon, 08/15/2022 - 8:35pm

I'm sure YSK was happy he got to go shopping and not to ETs. It's sad though.. when BM here "agreed" (which never happened anyways) to sat/sun EOWE she voluntarily dropped the Friday she used to take skids because "she didn't want to drive them around." Pathetic... she lives 3 miles away and the skids were becoming more active with friends and doing things.

Too much for her!! Haha. 

Sounds like you guys had a great weekend! 

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Submitted by NotYourAverageS... on Tue, 08/16/2022 - 12:36pm

Didn't take him to see ET. While it was nice of your DH to pick up her slack, probably for the best interest of his son, it is not his responsibility according to their CO for him to transport SS to and from ET. It is the responsibility of BM to be able to facilitate the transportation she knows needs to occur in order for her to see her son. If she can't manage it, then clearly it is not that important to her.

It is frustrating when one of the bio parents does the bare minimum and tries to claim ownership of the hard work or involvement that was actually done by the other parent and their spouse. I can't wait till BM tries to claim SD got caught up by something she did when it was DH and I who paid for and took her to 4 hours a week of tutoring and spent 1-2 hours either together or separately every day to catch her up. 
 

Bonus points for your DH!