I wanted to add that I spent the first night at my moms with the baby and the second night I had to come home while ss11 was still here last weekend. After being home an hour my bil shows up and dh stays outside with him. I noticed ss11 was hid in the babies room since dh was outside then when I tried to send a text the internet was way slow which means ss is downloading another game so I unplug the router and within three minutes step son is wandering around and actually comes outside. But this causes him to follow me around even more. Of course dh is still outside talking to his brother. The next day before it's time for ss to go home he and dh go somewhere and I noticed chip crumbs all on the clean sheets I'd just put on the bed in the babies room. This makes two rules he has repeatedly sh$& on and they are the two that's been the problem for the last few visits besides coming here filthy. I'm tired of being disrespected and when he shows up this weekend I will once again try to go stay at my moms and it'll be a big fight with the husband. Can anybody give me some constructive advice on what to say to my husband when he complains that I'm leaving because his son is here. That is exactly the reason I'm leaving.