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My Tenant Is a NCP BM!

thinkthrice's picture

My upstairs apt is rented out.  These were the best of the lot.  They're married (he's stepdad and is the breadwinner), she gets her 11 yr old daughter on the weekends.  

Was over their painting the downstairs apt and heard her kid galloping across the floor.  LoL.

As long as they pay their rent... 

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Chelseybychelsey's picture

Ok..and?

thinkthrice's picture

Didn't think I had to spell it out.  We traumatized SMs see everything through the prism of non-nuclear families.

Maybe I was being too subtle.

Thumper's picture

Hmmm I wonder what SHE pays in child support?

Maybe 25bucks a week?

Hope they are decent Tenants

24 years as a SM's picture

We have one tenant that is a total GUBM, Her little angel is so quite, she doesn't make any noise. Yeah, right. That's why the tenant downstairs sends me videos of the little hellion, stomping up and down the exterior stairs, screaming at the top of her lungs. Once inside the apartment, it sounds like a Water Buffalo f*cking a Elephant. There is a noise ordinance in this location, but thanks to COVID19, we can't kick her out.

We gave the downstairs tenant a discount on his rent, and told him to call the police whenever he hears the hellion, screaming and banging around inside the upstairs apartment. Hopefully the police will send out CPS to investigate, just to piss off the GUBM. *diablo*

Livingoutloud's picture

He is a breadwinner and she is an NCP? Stay at home like a housewife? So she doesn't work? Why is the kid not with her then? And how does she pay CS if she doesn't work? I am confused 

momjeans's picture

Whoa, a NCP BM. That's like a unicorn.

Makes you wonder what the backstory is there, huh, TT?

But, as long as the rent is paid and there's no drama. I hope they end up being good tenants for you. 

still learning's picture

Why the double standard? Why is it okay for a man to see his kids EOW or even only at summer break yet a woman is demonized, judged, and many say, "I wonder what she did to lose custody?"  Do we ever call men *unfit* fathers if they only see the kids 4 days a month or less? I know a few women who are fit mothers but also NCP BM's.  One gal's ex was a cop and he had everyone on his side. Even though he was (allegedly) abusive she lost custody. Anther woman was a SAHM and dad of course hired a killer lawyer. Another lady had to move back home with her parents since the ex kicked her out. She had nowhere to stay and he wouldn't allow the kids to go with her. Since the state father was in was a "capture" state, he won custody.  Next gal *gasp* had to work and ex convinced the judge that his home was better since SAH girlfriend could care for the kid.  

It happens, family court is brutal to everyone. Often they decide a child's fate in 15 minutes.  If the above situation is shocking to you then your world view is pretty narrow.  

tog redux's picture

And there are actually some very courageous women who give the father full custody because they know he's a better parent, or he lives in a better school district, or whatever. 

still learning's picture

Again complete double standard. I don't think I've ever heard a man who gave a woman full custody called *courageous*?  

tog redux's picture

Men aren't stigmatized for not having custody. Women are. It take courage to face stigma. Of course there is a double standard, that's what this entire thread is about. 

momjeans's picture

I, in no way, am making any assumptions. I am clearly stating something that I find factual in my life... and that is not many bio moms are NCPs, unless they're incarcerated, etcetera. C'mon...

Also, take it up with the family court system. They're the one that wants to be pro BM being awarded PCP, opposed to NCP. I stand by my initial inquiry why TT's tenant is a NCP.