How Lowoooooooo.......... Can You Go??????

I have a 16 year old SD who is a Sophomore in high school. I started noticing no emphasis by the BM for SD to turn in homework, go to class, she is truant and turn in her classwork. This has been happening her 8th, 9th, and now 10th grade years. SD has no disabilities and so smart. I could not for the life of me figure out why BM is not doing anything about it. My two other SD's her two older sisters have graduated high school and are over the age of eighteen, they didn't have any problems. So then I started thinking about it, and I have come to the conclusion that the BM knows exactly what she is doing, she knows she only has 2 years left and her $600.00 a month will end and if she can keep her in school for as long as she can "age 20 in OK" then she will continue to draw CS. I know that sounds crazy, but I have talked to other non custodial dads who this has also happened too and it looks like a trend. Are BM's so low that they would sacrifice their own child's education all for the mighty dollar. Say it isn't so?

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You honestly think that is

You honestly think that is what it is??? If you are right, that is sick.

I think I would have DH sit down with SD and have a serious "come to Jesus" talk about her future and her potential.

What a fabulous way to EFF up a child! Way to go BM!

DISbelief~

~You have to BE crazy to UNDERSTAND crazy!~

Oh yes it happens. My Dhs

Oh yes it happens. My Dhs order said graduated High School or 19th birthday. Unbeknownst to dh - Bm pulled youngest sd out of regular high school and had her placed into an alternative self directed study program to slow her down. Sd graduated 4 days before her 19th birthday. Sick eh?

Yes, it is totally sick and

Yes, it is totally sick and unbelievable to me. I just wish the court system would wake up to what the crap is going on. This would be so easy to prove. We have all records. I guess all they care about is just making sure they graduate. Which is totally important to me, don't get me wrong. But they need to see the whole picture. Thanks for your comment. I am not so crazy after all!

Dh tried to see if we could

Dh tried to see if we could stop paying CS when we finally found out(almost a year after the fact) she was in this program as she was only going for an hour each week. Our lawyer told us the courts would see it as she is still in school even if it was only an hour a week.

oooh.. and get this.... we were required to pay half for braces. The FIRST time sd had braces BM had them put on then pocketed our money - then neglected to have the braces adjusted! They stayed on her teeth unadjusted until they were falling apart and looked worse than when she started. Dh pitched a fit and demanded she have them taken off. Her teeth were so bad by then that we had no choice but to pay half again to have new ones put on - and in BM fashion she had the braces taken off just before sds 19th birthday although they needed to stay on.

We found out a month or so before sd turned 19 that she was 6 months pregnant. Bm somehow figured that because sd was pregnant that we would continue to pay CS to support sd past 19!! Unfriggen-believable!! It seriously makes a person wonder if she encouraged the pregnancy. Bm pitched a huge fit when DH told her there is NO way he is going to continue to pay CS - that it is HER fault for allowing HER to sleep around in HER house.

I found it really hard to believe that a mother would use their children like the bm freak show that we deal with has but it unfortunately I found out first hand that it is so true. I have a billion stories that show this.

In case your wondering how it took us so long to find out about these things is because the girls were so PASed out they refused to visit and would only let us know very little about their lives.