Friday night I had trouble getting to sleep because I've been struggling with depression lately and frustration over the step situation. It's a step weekend and I decided to approach it with my best attitude possible.

4 a.m. and I still couldn't get to sleep. I heard a weird sound coming from the hallway and I open the bedroom door. I saw stepson blowing chunks into the bathroom sink. Now, at this point, my first thought was not: Oh poor step son is sick.   It was: why the f*** is he blowing chunks into the bathroom sink when the toilet is 18 inches away?

Before you tell me that I should be lucky that he made it to the bathroom at all, let me repeat: The toilet was 18in away.  At the very worst, if he had to start ralphing in the bathroom sink he could have finished in the toilet between breaks.  But my steps have absolutely no conscientiousness were that kind of stuff is concerned.  This is a 12 year old boy who has apparently never been taught that you don't throw up into a fucking bathroom sink because it clogs the damn thing.

I woke up my boyfriend who was groggy and insisted that he get up with his son.  He mumbled something to his son about how his son should be sure not to leave vomit in the sink.  I tried to explain to boyfriend that it's not the sink thats the problem but the pipes. He didn't seem to get it.  

I should mention that even after being told not to leave anything in the sink, the 12 year old did leave a black bean in there.  (Boyfriend made chicken enchiladas for dinner.)

Today his obese daughter used the same bathroom and left a big turd floating in the bowl.  Apparently she thinks that's okay. My kids don't think it's okay to leave big turds in the bowl because when they were little I give them hell if they even left their urine in there.  It took exactly one time for them to learn that was absolutely unacceptable. They learned quickly.  But this ten-year-old still forgets to flush her turd down the toilet.

Boyfriend called her upstairs and told her to flush the toilet and told her to get the toilet brush and scrub it if I left anything behind. But he didn't really address how disgusting and socially unacceptable her behavior was in the first place.  So I took it upon myself to start scolding her. I told her how disgusting it was. And that she better not ever do that again because nobody wants to see her turd floating around.

Previously today he had told my older daughter and his older son that I can walk to the gas station but they had to take her with them.  My daughter did not want her to come for obvious reasons. Because she stinks.  I told my partner that kids have their own pecking order and that she needs to earn the privilege of them wanting to spend time with her and that is only going to happen if she stops behaving offensively. Stop going around with body odor. Stop having accidents. Stop leaving your shit floating in the bowl.  Stop pestering and poking your brother and demanding things of him and the other kids.

I told him he wasn't doing any favors for her by making the other kids hang around with her and she has to learn that her behavior is gross and offensive and off-putting.

So he gave the other three kids each a fiver and she got to stay home.

I feel sorry for this little girl. I don't know how to get her to start giving a f***.  As she gets older she is going to be more and more ostracized by the other kids. Her weight is ballooning out of control and she smells bad.  The older she gets, the harder it's going to get.