My possibly skirts wearing super Christian SD, has flipped to become anti-skirt, now wearing my DH’s cast offs instead of the skirts she chose for school clothes last year & non church going now, we all just decided to stop attending, since we couldn’t find a church nearby that openly accepts gay people.

 Her behavior has totally cleaned up since last year, I haven’t heard any peep of how rotten I am in months.  Of course since she pulled all that crap last year (hanging pictures of canoodling BM & DH in her room, texting asking DH where we were at so BM could just show up), I make myself scarce when she’s here, and made it clear that I won’t be hanging around SD or BM again.  SD made straight As and is super motivated to try for valedictorian, so that’s a good thing.  She’s also gotten better at interacting with my kids, DH has been coaching her.  My hope is that she finds success, and moves out of our house.  

Now, BM has now completely sabotaged her relationship with SF.  SF was OM, and a little dumb, but he potty trained SD, did more parenting than DH or BM, he treated her like his own, she called him dad.  So now that SF and BM are divorced apparently all of a sudden he’s mean and pure evil because BM says so.  Which is sad, but I am kind of a little glad this has taken the spotlight off of me, and I imagine SF has a GF and BM is in a jealous rage over that (she shares multiple kids with him), though I do feel sorry for those kids.  So while, I am glad I spent the time teaching SD to read and to do her own laundry and fend for herself, as these were great life skills that made her more independent , but to me, this is just a lesson, there truly is no winning in this stepparent game.