BF: Well, I've just about picked a fight with someone today.
Me: At work?
BF: No...who do you think?
Me: Hm...why?
BF: Read her text messages.

So I looked for not only hers, but his...

BM1: can we talk?
BF1: What's up now? I'm in trouble because of you..oh man.
BM2: Well, fine, take care of your home situation, then, I guess I'll be able to handle the situation with LittleMr.
BF2: What's up?? What happened?
BM3: I'm sick and tired of this! It's not about me, it's about LittleMr. It's not even about CS! And say hello to your little usade.
BM4: Well, I can't call now without her on my back. Great. I thought you wanted to assume more responsibility, and not just every 2nd weekend.
BM5: I said I'm sick and tired of this! Now we can't talk about the kids because of your little usade. I said it's about LittleMr. not about me or CS. You can find women on every corner, but not your kids!
BF3: It has nothing to do with usade.

He mentioned her actually calling, but he wasn't able to talk much with her. He didn't pick up when she tried to call the house.

1. My heart hurts for children of divorce
2. I feel for single mothers who struggle to raise their children properly
3. I feel for divorcees, more often fathers, who struggle with CS and visitation issues
4. I see where this exchange, and the new hostility is "my fault"
5. I don't accept the blame. It's his fault for not setting boundaries RIGHT AWAY since he knew how she conniving and vindictive she can be, and allowing her to believe everything is hunky-dory and WE are ALL FRIENDS and I've clearly stated that I take issue with HIM and HIS behavior, because as long as he doesn't get his ass to court to get visitation straightened out, she will continue to have control and be able to use the kids and do as she pleases
6. I don't accept her accusation that I would in any way try to block communication between them about their children
7. (And this is where I get mean) I don't feel for any selfish, lying, cheating woman who tries to kill her husband in a jealous fit, drag out a divorce, lie about CS, marry another man for financial security, cheat on HIM while he's home watching kids she won't allow to see their father and vice versa, then contact the BD after years of silence which she put in place, blame that on H2 because she's planning her exit from 2nd marriage, use BOTH at the same time to re-furnish not only her home, but that of her lying, cheat-on-her-man-get-knocked-up-by-lover-then-run-back-to-man-for-security best friend, try to get some doctor to deem her as "legally disabled" so she doesn't have to work and can continue collecting welfare and retirement and disability and CS and party hardy, continue to use her kids as leverage AND excuses for unnecessary expenses and inappropriate verbal exchange in front of the kids, all the while thinking she can attack me using the GoldenUterus argument with a smirk on her face, then pull out the pity-me-the-kids-and-I-got-screwed-over-twice-card and believe that I would actually have a place in my heart and home for her.