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Done being the middle man.

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Submitted by Eb523 on Tue, 03/14/2017 - 9:47pm

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My fiancé's ex had her phone shut off due to not paying the bill. She has his phone number so she could call him from another phone, instead she decided to message me on facebook to try to get ahold of him. This wouldn't be a problem however we have tried this before and it always ends up with her getting mad at me for not getting her way and telling me i'm trying to take her role as mom or keeping her kid from her. So, a few months ago I told her I no longer felt comfortable being the middle man because I am not always with my fiancé and sometimes the response wouldn't be in a timely manner. I told her to either call him from another phone or wait until pick up to talk to him. Instead of respecting my comfort zone, she has continued to try to get to him through me, then gets rude with me when I tell her the same thing every time. I wouldn't mind talking to her if we could all get along, but that's simply not the case. How can I get through to her or what can I do to get her to stop contacting me. I don't want to block her because I want her to be able to see the pictures that I post of her daughter. I'm now thinking that this may be the only option though. We have tried talking to her about this at pick up and she says if I want to be a part of her kids life then I need to get on her page. I just don't know what to do.

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Submitted by twoviewpoints on Tue, 03/14/2017 - 10:16pm

If the children are being exchanged between parents, then BM certainly doesn't need to see your photos of the kids on facebook. She can take her own photos.

Block her. Stop attending pick-up/drop offs. If the BM has access to facebook then she has access to online. She can email Dad.

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Wed, 03/15/2017 - 2:15am

simply block BM from all on FB..... it's very easy to do that, you owe her nothing...

if she has the means to do facebook she sure as hell can call your fiance...

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Submitted by ColdFeet on Wed, 03/15/2017 - 4:41am

Block her! Simple.

Stop letting this woman walk over & manipulate you. Don’t allow other peoples life decisions be your problem. You didn’t get her pregnant nor are you a family lawyer so why are you the middle man.

Your partner should be dealing with her not you. Tell your fiancé to grow some balls and deal with this situation he created.

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Submitted by newcstep on Wed, 03/15/2017 - 10:22am

Why do you want her to see the pictures you post and what makes you think she wants to see them? This to me is super strange.
I'm assuming these are pictures of birthday parties, hunting for easter eggs, maybe a fun day at the zoo with you and your SO. What mother WANTS to see pictures of her child wrapped up in another family unless it is for some seriously masochistic, obsessive, stalker reason? Why would you want to share moments of your family life with her unless it is to throw it in her face?

I mean MAYBE in a perfect world BMs and SMs can share pictures of the kids and live in blended family bliss, but since you can't have a civil conversation with her on fb, I don't think that's gonna happen for you anytime soon.

Block her. Nothing good can come from sharing these pictures, but a lot of good will come from separating yourself from her.