Hello. I am new here but feel like I don't have anyone I can vent to. I am recently married (6 mths) for the third time. I thought I would never be married again as my child situation is complex. I have 2 kids from a first marriage and 1 from my second, which was a brutal, lengthy divorce. My younges is ADHD/ODD/anxiety issues and probably yet undiagnosed personality disorder. He's a challenge. I knew going into this marriage that it would never work with someone with little kids as well. DH has a great relationship with my oldest. My middle child spends very little time with me as his dad is borderline personality disorder and he brainwashed him and convinced him to live with him. My youngest's dad is a Narcisist and wealthy and fought me until I ran out of money to fight so he has primary of my youngest and he is only with me every other weekend. DH is easily flustered with him and we usually fight when I have him. However, I've chosen to overlook this as EVERYONE has difficulty with my youngest and his time with me is limited. I don't think MY kids are a major stressor in my relationship with DH. However he has an adult son (20) who has me at my wits end. DH and I had just begun dating when there was a "crisis" with his son. He had stolen a bunch of checks from his grandmother and bounced them and was over $700 in debt to the bank who planned to press charges if it wasn't paid back immediately. I had a little money from my divorce settlement, so against my better judgment I loaned DH the money to pay the debt off for his son. Six months later I have gotten $100 back from DH---not his son. Shortly after I bailed him out, I found out his son had caused a car accident with no insurance and DH had borrowed money from his brother to bail him out of that. (I found out from dh's mother accidentally). Had I known that I never would have loaned him the money. DH also lived with me before we got married and continued to pay rent and buy groceries for his adult son for 9 months! He still pays for his cell phone. Here's a little background--they are from a rural town with few jobs. The son had a sports scholarship to college he turned down. He took another 6 months out of high school to find a job (this was when he stole the money). Most recently the son got stopped for improper plates (he traded a truck his dad gave him without permission in for a smaller car and didn't bother to replace the plates, and I'm sure he's uninsured). He was also smoking pot when he was stopped and had pot in the car. His car got towed. I told DH I absolutely would not help this time. And he hasn't asked. But since I've known DH, 2 gold rings have gone missing as well as money out of my purse. I don't want to suspect him, but I think he might do anything to help this worthless son. Probably most offensive of all, there has been no mention of paying me back but his son took DH to an out of town baseball game without inviting me, then yesterday we went to dh's grandson's (from his daughter) birthday party and the son bought the child a $200 gift. While we were there he never even acknowledged my existence but as soon as we left ss was texting DH that he wanted to get together next week and watch the playoffs so DH invited him to my house (our house but I paid for it). I don't want him in my home really and I feel very disrespected by DH and his son. I have building resentment and I am beginning to think this marriage is doomed.