Opinions on BM using you and DH's family memberships to pools, parks,zoo etc?

Do you allow BM to use your family membership passes to the Zoo or wherever when she has the dcs? Does DH ask you? BM and GBM have asked and we have let them a few times, but cards have been lost and had to be reordered and we had a minor issue with a local amusement park who felt we were exploiting the family pass program. I really don't like to share stuff like this. It is too expensive and it annoys me to be asked.

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BM asked DH to use his dd214

BM asked DH to use his dd214 for a discount on "day camp".....

One. No. You get a butt ton of CS if you want to send the kids to "day camp" you pay for it. At full price. You weren't in Iraq to earn that discount.

Two. We conveniently lost his copy. DH told her that and she never spoke another word of it.

Day camp my ass. It was for daycare in which she works part time. Get a life.

Hate this. When we married BM

Hate this. When we married BM used DH country club membership. That was the end of that. We switched to neighborhood pool. She is not allowed in. I think she secretly siphons off our Netflix but I can't be sure...

Change the Netflix Password?

Yeah but skids use it for

Yeah but skids use it for streaming to their computers so that'd last like one day. I don't mind them using it, they're part of our household. I just hate the idea that BM freeloads off it. But she freeloads in life so I try not to think about it too much.

It depends. We live in

It depends. We live in different cities and dh splits sports. I have a pass to the rec center so I have allowed her to get the discount for summer sports. The pass includes pool passes for the kids which they can use but I would not let bm use mine.

As far as zoo or family passes I wouldn't share for all the reasons listed by u guys but if it's the kids and in their name I could care less

See, I agree with all of you.

See, I agree with all of you. This is not something we should be expected to do for BM but DH says to me, if it doesn't cost us anything and the kids want to go to these places why not let them use the cards? He bends over backwards to keep BM and her family happy. (BM is not horrible, she is just struggling with mental illness and DH treats her with kid gloves) I feel selfish thinking this but I am getting a tiny bit tired of all the ways that we help BM. It is not the biggest deal on earth but I wish we did not have to share everything.

Nope. I don't even know that

Nope. I don't even know that I would let her have SS use his Six Flags pass so she can take him. Sorry, I paid for that. You wanna take him, buy him a ticket.

Nope. Just, nope. Not this

Nope. Just, nope. Not this one.

God no. In fact, when we

God no. In fact, when we first were married and even a couple years after, BM wrote letters trying to forbid my SSs from being able to join town pool and my town's YMCA. Luckily both shot her down because both were our family's memberships and SSs spend half their lives here. There is also luckily nothing in their CO to support such ludicrous demands.

However....before ex-H joined country club, if he wanted to take our kids to the town pool, they would get in as members and he and his parents would pay the big $3 guest fee, as my kids' guests. It was nice that they were able to go and enjoy showing him and their grandparents their summer community pool.

I would never ask or even desire to go to country club on his membership- though lots of people we all know belong there.

If everything is shared, why get a divorce?

No. With a side of, hell

No. With a side of, hell no.

We have zero contact with the Bowel Movement.