For the past three+ years BM has been working on DH to make sure I don't have any parental role with the skids. It's okay if I'm at a random sporting game but everything that's parental, I'm out.

OSS had his middle school graduation tonight. DH and BM are splitting two events. DH got tonight's event. DH said BM forwarded a message about number of people going and should she put me down. DH thinks isn't this nice after all the legal shit this winter/spring that she doesn't have a problem. DH wants me to go "for OSS." Fine. I'll do it for the skid even though he really doesn't care.

At the event it dawns on me that if I hadn't gone DH would be the only single parent. So his motive is now suspect. And it dawns on me that BM probably wants me there after all the legal crap so it looks like we all get along (DH and BM were fighting about which HS for the skids and she thinks people at the school know about all their dirty laundry.)

It all dawned on me when they talked about all the stuff the kids had done and I knew about none of it. Hm...Id been kept out so why is it okay now? Appearances.

Drat.