SO and I argued last night about BM2 coming to our home/SO going to hers for family therapy, going to look at schools together, pretty much their whole coparenting "plan". BM2 will say one thing to the therapist and call the next day to refuse to do as she said. I don't care about that. I don't think they should even attempt to co parent anymore. It's been a year and nothing has or will change. SO is folowing her lead with parenting SD13 and it's ridiculous. SD13 is treated like a child with a mental disability.

There are 3 sets of standards in this house and it's driving me crazy.

SS16 gets out of a lot because he is so well behaved so who cares if he doesn't shower or clean his room but he is expected to function on his own and do chores. He's also an A student in a grwat school.

SD13 is too fragile and upset from her parents splitting (6 years ago) and needs to be treated as an only child because BM2 has no other children. She can't be expected to clean up after herself, take care of her pet, go to school and get at least Cs (in a horrible school), clean her room, do basic chores or function without someone holding her hand. BM2 loves rewarding her for that F she brought up to a D.

DS2 cleans up his own food, brushes his teeth, cleans his room (even makes his bed), puts his toys away and bathes daily. He has manners and he actually does have some developmental delays.

I told SO I won't continue to lower my standards for this poor poor baby. I'm tired of allowing the older kids to run this house because SO can't parent them. Why is a 2 year old cleaner and more responsible than teenagers? I let SO know, nicely, that I won't continue to let BM2 dictate how I parent the children in my own home. She can let SD13 send nude pics to men on the internet, she can coddle her to the point that she will never be independent but I won't and I won't allow SO to set different standards for each child. I'm sick of this stupid cunt and her helpless offspring. Poor SD13 was upset last week because someone, not her friend, told her to stop touching her food. WTH are you touching someone's food and crying victim because they don't like your stink fingers?

He overcompensates for BM2's lack of parenting and is too strict then he tries to be disney dad. He won't allow her to do one thing but when she came home almost 2 hours late because she was listening to music he said it was ok. No, that's not ok.
SS16 and SD13 were watching DS2 (he was napping on the couch) while we cleaned out a closet. SS16 goes upstairs and SD13 leaves. I wanted them both grounded, mostly SD13 because she was alone with him and didn't tell anyone, including SS16, that she was leaving which is another rule she broke without consequences. He "talked" to them. It wasn't enough so I yelled at them in frontof their friends. Embarrassed? Good.

Poor SD13 was upset because she wanted a daddy daughter day. You had one, every damn week, until you started failing. "I just wish I could have alone time with daddyyyy every week." You have 3 siblings and another on the way. Go have alone time with your daddy-cousin at BM2's.

We took the kids and their friends to the zoo over the weekend. SD13 tells her friend that DS2 is her half brother. No shit. SO corrected her and said we don't say half siblings. I added that if we did you would be the only one without a "real" sibling.

Good thing SD18 was kicked out or I'd probably be walking out right now.

Am I really expecting too much? Maybe I am from DS2 but I don't want him becoming an entitled little snot like SD13.

Sorry for the multiple rants, I don't want to post a bunch of blogs complaining about the skids. I'd rather read some of the other blogs, they're much more entertaining. I don't want to post that much detail in case BM2 figures out the internet is for more than finding someone to screw or being MOTY before court.