I'm tired of hearing about it. I don't know what the BM's intentions were..who knows..maybe she's seriously a kind person. But I'm sick of hearing about it because it's unrealistic...9 times out of ten things like this will never happened..this is the ONLY article making a BM look like a good person..all the BM's i've read about and the one I have to deal with are insane witches...as soon as I see it on my facebook wall...i remove it...GAG!

But God has plans that far exceed our own ane when my little family dissolved to form two families I knew you would be coming.

Hey BioMonster, the little family dissolved because you're a dirty lying cheating filthy WH0RE who was too busy looking for the Golden Peni$ to appreciate DH. And I thank GOD for that because he deserves better than you.

As far as me being terrible and you praying YOUR daughter wouldn't look up to me, well, guess what? YOUR daughter (not DH's) DOES look up to me. Why? Because YOU won't listen to her. YOU scream at her and tell her she's stupid and absolutely refuse to listen to her and calmly discuss any problems she has. I, on the other hand, LISTEN and discuss various OPTIONS with her and let her talk about how those options could work for her and let HER make the decision that works best for HER. NOT try to shove my biased opinions down her throat.

You SHOULD be jealous of me. I am a decent, law-abiding, caring, giving woman who believes that life is not all about ME ME ME. I am not about to throw away DH. I didn't marry him as a stepping stone on my way to something "more". I'm not about to cheat on him with countless other men. I don't USE him. He is not simply an INCOME. He is a MAN. And he's a GOOD man, with feelings and ideas and love and compassion and I wouldn't give him up for the world.

Resent me all you want. It's not MY fault you suck as a mother. It's not MY fault you think nutritious meals always have french fries or come in pizza form. It's not MY fault your idea of goodies are things from a box and not things made from scratch. Go ahead and call me Betty Crocker and think it's an insult. It's NOT. I'm proud of my skills. You're just jealous that your kids prefer MY cooking over YOU buying junk food.

Blah freaking blah. I could go on and on and on. That BM is a rarity. The reality is here on this website.

Well... I had never read that...

I hate it.

Of course my DH found a younger better looking woman, he is still a good looking man, BM on the other hand, well she let herself go as soon as she unzipped her wedding dress...

I’m busy looking at the comments to the online letter.  One of the first comments was, “It takes incredible courage, patience, humility, and thick skin to truly get along and love a step-parent.”  Why?  And, I can’t help but ‘love’ Meredith, who immediately made the assumption, “The fact that she gets along with the woman who divided her marriage shows tremendous tolerance and forgiveness.”  Yes, there are still !@#$! Idiots out there who think that every SM = a woman who was banging dad behind BM’s back.  This is only 10% of SMs tops.  Here it is 2018 and the unbelievable ignorance and assumptions made by some is absolutely astounding.

Oh, here is a comment from Rachel stating, “Lady, I’m happy that you have this amazing relationship with this woman [SM], but my god you don’t owe her jack shit.”  Rachel goes on to mention that she’s not married, doesn’t have any kids, and grew up with two parents who are still together.  Yeah, she knows it all allright.  Really!  No way in H-.  And then all the comments from there on pretty much deteriorate into the typical stereotyped comments. Nice letter, tho.  Nice to see something that fights the stereotype for a change.

It’s clear from the first sentence, “I never wanted you here.” that the letter came from a bitter place of resentment over her failed marriage. If you want to write someone a personal, heartfelt letter, you hand it to them. You don’t submit it online, hope it will get likes, and check back for comments. The letter is disingenuous and a subtle attack on women who end up in the stepmother role after their life partner improves via a failed bond with his ex wife. 

On one hand this is little more than the usual BM centric drivel.  She "accepted" SM into her family? Oh really.

Pu-lease!  SM probably does not give a flying rat's shit about "your" family and  for damned sure you are not a part of hers.  Contrary to what you are spewing. SD might be part of SM's family.. and yours. But... neither you nor SM are part of each other's family.  At least in the overwhelming majority of blended family situations.

On the other hand... I respect that this BM deems to call the kid in this situation "our daughter" in relation to SM.

My reaction is no doubt in large part jaded by my own Sparenting experience and... nearly 11 years of STalking through the countless experiences of other SParents struggling with the toxic bullshit spewed by the blended family opposition.

But.. it is an intereting read.

Eh... I'm less offended than I expected to be. Its definitely better than the last couple "dear SM" letters I've seen on here. Still a little too heavy on the "our" crap for me and I think she is still overestimating the amount of her place in their lives. It does read fairly genuine to me though which is a first from a BM that I've seen.

I still dont find it heartwarming though. I personally just flat out don't want a relationship with BM or communication any more than necessary even if I can get along with her. There just isnt a reason to me other than looking good on a surface level. Shes not adding anything to my life so why put in that effort? Shes not part of my family or friend group. And my DH left her for a reason.

Barf....major barf!

Who cares? I couldn't care less is BM liked me, loved me, or hated me.. She is not my family. These women need to get over themselves as some permanent fixture in their ex husbands life. MOVE ON.

The letter writer sounds better than my DH's ex for sure. However, it's unnecessary, wordy, and yes time to move on. You nailed it, the ex is not part of DH's family, or yours. There doesn't have to be bad feelings, it's simply over. This is why I parented with my DH, and BM parented on her end. I also found the letter quite forward in thinking the step even cares what her feelings are.  Honestly, I felt the real story was BM still trying to insert herself, by playing the victim card.